Inspired my by friend Lexi’s blog at sophisticatedrelationships.com I looked up an old quote that I learned from a Tibeatian Prayer that sums up what my struggles were like when I first decided to become more social and better interacting with women, I started with conscious incompetence and am working my way towards truly being consciously competent.
unconscious incompetence - Average Fustrated Chump who doesn’t know he’s an AFC or want to change.
conscious incompetence – The rAFC (recovering AFC) who is working on improiving his social skill and game.
conscious competence – The Pick Up Artist that knows exactly what he is doing, and why it works.
unconscious competence – Naturals, who don’t know about the game, or why what they do works, it just does.
“Grant that I may be given appropriate difficulties and sufferings on this journey so that my heart may be truly awakened and my practice of liberation and universal compassion may be truly fulfilled.”
Sure it would have been easier to have been a natural, but I’ve enjoyed not only the journey and struggle, but I believe that the rewards are sweeter as well, since I worked so hard for them. Can you imagine being born a tall rich white guy that has never had to struggle with women? Like those hollywood heirs we see, that have always partyed like rockstars? Like Randy Spelling, son of producer Aaron spelling, borther of 90210′s Tori Spelling, and the guy who took Paris Hilton’s virginity at 14!!!!!!!!
But if I was that guy would I truly apperciate who I am, know what real social interaction is like, and enjoy hooking up as much? I probaly wouldn’t care…and would enjoy life regardless, but this is who I am. This is what I was born with and born into, so these are my options and I will strive to better myself everyday, and work towards true conscious competence. Are you with me on this journey? Leave a comment and say yes to concious competence if you are truly committed.
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Yea I hear you man. I wish we could’ve met in August while I was in town. Too bad I had drive to the airport by the this I got your email, because we could’ve rock the town. Keep up the good work, you’re in the forefront of reversing all stereotypical views of Asians in dating, as am I.
M&M