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I met with David Wygant today and one of the topics that came up was building a proper foundation. He teaches the natural style of pick up, where canned routines and lines aren’t memorized, instead he teaches the core of being observational and situational. I was trying to explain to him that lot of guys that come into this, need to see results more quickly or they give up before they even start. That’s when I came up with the Three Little Pigs Analogy…

Okay so we all know the children’s story about the three little pigs,

Mother Pig sends her three little piglets out into the world to make the strongest house for the family but they get into a fight so they all make three different houses. One day the big bad wolf came and knocked on the first little pig’s door and said, “Little pig, little pig, let me come in.”

So what’s that have to do with pickup?

The building blocks to getting laid, are very similar to the ones of building a house. Going without women, relationships and sex for years and years is like not having a warm cozy home to go to. Guys want shelter, guys want sex. The difference in the three little pigs is how much time, effort, and resources one is willing to put into building their “house.”

The first little pig built his house out of straw.

This is the magic pill guy, the speed seductionist who wants to do the least amount of work possible and get laid. My defense for him is that, while he has zero foundation, or real solid game, he immediately receives some type of satisfaction…it may not be the best, or even real, but he can see a roof over his head, which gives him hope and gratification.

This is also the direct guy who just goes up to every woman and says “I think you are beautiful. I want to get to know you,” without ever learning the lifestyle, mindset and frame behind true direct.

To some guys, a straw house may be all that you need. A Wolf may never come to blow down your house and eat you. You may get lucky, hook up, and build your confidence through success. Unfortunately for a lot of guys, you will get your house blown down, and get chewed up. You are without any type of foundation or solid walls to lean on.

The second little pig built his house out of sticks. This was a little bit stronger than a straw house.

This also took more time than the straw house…yet you are still lacking a foundation. You are stacking wood, also known as routine stacking. You learn some proper framing and can build a shelter relatively quickly with solid walls and a roof, but during the mist you realize that you should have at least laid a floor…and you start working on your inner game.

The in-direct method as a whole is like the house of sticks. You learn pieces of the game, piece by piece, and then put them all together. The benefit is that you can see immediate results, every routine you learn, every opener you come up with or memorize is like another stick you add on to your house. It’s also quite easy and fun to gather sticks of information and bundle them together.

A house made of wood may be all that you need, in terms of shelter – women and relationships. However, you still run the risk of not feeling completely solid since you are now made up of hundreds of little pieces and not a real solid frame. Then there’s the fireplace….which symbolizes real love and warmth…you can’t build a fireplace in a house made of wooden sticks and you can’t really emotionally connect with a women that you used canned openers and routines on.

The third little pig built his house out of bricks.

This is building a solid foundation from the start. It takes a lot more time, energy and resources but in the long run it is the most solid. You can also have a fireplace…real love and romance with this method. This is what natural game is all about.

However, because you do not see immediate results, many guys will never get anywhere with this method. A lot of guys will give up without ever seeing the roof being built, which is the downside. While the straw hut and wood house builds quickly and is easy and fun, laying bricks really isn’t…unless you can imagine the end result and keep focused on the future.

The other thing that a lot of people don’t think about are how the resources are acquired. A guy that is already successful in his career financially, and/or is already good looking has a lot of bricks to work with.

While the guy that is of zero or low value to start, doesn’t have the resources so has to start gathering sticks or will have to wander long and far between bricks.

Story by the Big Bad…Johnny Wolf