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I got an email asking me to contribute to a new book coming out on Pick Up and LTRs, and check out my chapter in the book below. I’ll give you guys more details when the book is released.

Dear Mr. Wolf:

As one of the top instructors today, I would like to offer you an opportunity to contribute to a current project of mine.

I am writing an eBook about how to have a successful Long Term Relationship from the perspective of a pickup artist. A portion of the book will contain chapters/articles written by the top pickup instructors working today. I have been a part of the community for the last 4 years and have been a big fan of your work and ideas, and would love for you to be one of the contributors.

Long Term Relationship from the perspective of a pickup artist by Johnny Wolf

Ever since I started being a full pick up instructor, my relationship life has gone to hell. I’m traveling three times a month to all over the world, which is exciting sure, but many it’s a little too exciting to manage a LTR. Ideally it would be great to have a girlfriend in all of the major cities I do bootcamps in, one in New York, San Francisco, and maybe two in Los Angeles.

A common misconception in the pick up community is that you have to have super solid game to get girls. But think about all of the normal guys that get laid, their game is far from solid but they still manage. Your game just has to be good, enough. Getting same night makeouts and same night lays has never helped my relationship life. If anything it hurts it by making me expect too much too quick and not be patient.

I remember during a New York bootcamp one of my students got laid on the 2nd night, which was great for everyone’s ego, but I think it put a false sense of being in everyone as well. Since on the 3rd night, the same student put himself down for not being able do a same night pull again. He had successfully opened, isolated and kissed his target during a cold approach, but instead of celebrating that, he kicked himself in the ass for not being able to take her home. I told him to simply take her a on a date since she obviously was already into him. What he said next boggled my mind, he didn’t even ask for her phone number. He was so stuck in the mindset of hooking up with her that night that he never even considered for a moment to date her.

It was my fault really, he had heard the stories, seen me in the field and modeled himself after myself and my actions. But, I don’t live in New York! He did. Now during every bootcamp I make sure the student knows that it is okay to date, and to have real relationships. We actually even recommend that some guys, especially ones that are sexually inexperienced or haven’t had many girlfriends to take breaks from the pick up community and have long term relationships.

Here are some of my personal tips that I have developed being in many LTRs.

1.The easiest way to get a girl to want you as her boyfriend is to sleep with her.
Be careful though because this can lead her into backing you into a corner if you’re not ready to be with her yet. But once she’s slept with you, she’s pretty much yours.

2.There is no reason why you should ever cheat.
No one needs to get hurt in this game, if you don’t want to be faithful, don’t get a girlfriend. Just call her your ‘lady’ or frame it right from the beginning that you have other women in your life.

3.If you want to check out other girls while you’re with your gf, you can.
Either explore her bi-sexual side and go shopping more threesomes together, even if it’s just imaginative. Or point out something about the girl you’re starring at and involve your gf in it, such as ‘wow, can you believe she’s wearing that,’ or ‘doesn’t she look like that one girl on the real world’

4.It is okay to do cheesy romantic things if she’s your girlfriend.
Buying flowers, surprise picnics, all those things are okay if she’s already your girlfriend, but only if you want to do it, and she’s not making you do it. I’m a romantic at heart, and I enjoy doing nice things, but only if a girl deserves it and doesn’t expect it.

5.Practice LTRs by adopting a cat.
Cats are like women. They are always moody, they only come up and rub themselves against you when they want something, even though they don’t eat that much, you still have to feed them. But the most important thing I’ve learned about cats is that they are not loyal like dogs. Just like a woman, you must re-earn a cats affection every day of your life or you lose them.

6.When it’s over, it’s over.
The best thing about being a pick up artist is that we have choice. Use that choice, and don’t get stuck in a unhappy relationship just because its easier than moving on to a new one. The reason why so many couples are unhappy is because they don’t realize when it’s over. Try your hardest to make it work, but realize you have choice to move on when it’s truly over.

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