Restaurant Kiss-Close
During my most recent bootcamp I taught in San Francisco, all the students and I randomly decided to eat at Carrow’s, which is like a Denny’s for old people. Anyways, since the first night of the bootcamp is when I really like to show my students what is possible, I decided to demo a set during dinner. I really think that live demonstations are a vital part of the bootcamp experience because it allows the student to see the theory in action. However, we do have a policy at the ABC’s of Attraction…we politely eject out of sets after 15 minutes, the reason for that is it gives us enough time to show what is possible, but it doesn’t cut into too much of the student’s night.
So I ran through the ABC’s quickly, kino esclated heavily while building comfort, rapport, and making sure the friend was okay with us, and within 10 minutes, we were standing in the middle of the brightely lit restaurant, holding each other in a warm embrace and kissing. It was a great start to a great weekend bootcamp. Here’s a review and racap of the weekend written by one of the students,
Hey,guys! This is the AlphaZ! I just took the bootcamp with Johnny Wolf and Showtime last weekend. First off, if anybody that is considering taking a bootcamp with the ABCs of attraction team make the investment now, do the homework and know what to expect in the bootcamp! I think that I personally benefit a lot from having a positive mindset going into the bootcamp. As a college student, making this investment wasn’t an easy decision, but I’m glad that I did! The instructors of the ABCs team really took care of me, and I got to meet awesome fellow students who are nothing but nice guys trying to be successful with women. And there is nothing to be ashamed of! I did all my homework and had no approaching anxiety going into the bootcamp, it allowed me to get the most out of the bootcamp and learn what my sticking points are. Now I’m ready to go into the infamous beginner’s hell.
Day 1: The lecture potion of the BC is just eye opening. I thought I knew a lot about the pick up already, but Johnny and Showtime definitely have a lot up their sleeves. Day 1 is about A and B phase. This part is crucial to pick up, the details and subtleties that they demonstrate in the room are something that has to be seen in person. Also, one thing that Jonny mentioned on that day is that: “as puas, we evolve or die.” What allow them to be so successful is years of training and hard work in field, and they are always evolving and learning from feedbacks. I think this a really important for all the puas out there to know. So at night, we went to this restaurant bar, I was pretty excited to go into the field to put my newly acquired knowledge into use and get feedbacks. The night was still young; the place wasn’t very target-rich. Showtime spots a 2-set outside of the restaurant, so he asked me to approach. I looked over; there was hot blonde 2-set, with 4 dudes. I asked showtime: “the one with amogs?” Showtime confirmed me hesitantly. I thought about what I was taught in the lecture, so no hesitation I just went in. I addressed the whole set, but one of the guys started ignoring me, so I kept going and used a bit of amogging tactics that I already knew, and then they just walked away. I got to talk to the girls! I did A and B, then transit to C. In retrospect, I should’ve isolated and forced into D, but at the time I thought this is my first set, tonight I’m just going to focus on A and B. It turns out, the 2 set is the best one I talk to all night in terms of looks! This makes me think about something that JT says in his blog: “this is why we learn pick up, guys! So when your dream girl comes along, you have the skills to get her, to not let her walk away from your life!” we approached some more sets then bounce to another venue. The night ends at about 1:30, and then we went debriefing the night at Carrows. This is where the moment of the night comes from! While we were waiting for the food, I looked over my shoulder; next thing you know, Jonny is talking to a hot 6-foot tall brunette, and her friend is just sitting across the table doing her own thing. In about 2 minutes, they are already holding hands, I can tell from the eyes of the girl that she is totally into Johnny! Then I realized that I was witnessing the “stone cold pimp in action!” She was kinoing Johnny like crazy, I knew that she already fell into the wolf trap, it was over! At that moment, I felt like I was watching a romantic movie, the whole restaurant disappears, and there is the girl and Johnny, that’s it. Then they kissed. I have to say that watching Johnny in action is just unreal. The Carrows pick up wolf special meal is legendary!
Day 2: we learned C and D during the lecture portion. There was tons of information, we also went over the direct opener, I was really to put all of these into use and add onto what we learned in the previous night. For the night portion, we went to a club with bottle service. I knew that the goal of the night is to work on C and D. I was trying to bring girls back to our couches. The first set went really well, I ran direct opener and quickly brought them back to our table. The night kind of went downhill from there. After that, I went through a period where I was so eager to bring them back that it hindered my game. I was being needy at times. Then I analyzed my failed sets, and then decided to try harder and improve on certain things. I decided that I wasn’t going back to the table until I bring girls back. I didn’t want to leech off of other brothers and instructors; I needed to learn from my mistakes. Then I went downstairs, adjusted my energy level and one set immediately hooked. I ended up kissing a girl on the dance floor. After that, I got some new found confidence and was able to sit down with few more girls to work on my C and D. Once again, Jonny had some girls with him at the table most of the time and the crazy thing is that I never saw him leaving the table! Showtime gave me some advice on my direct opener that immediately gets me results. He has a keen eye for body language and tonality! After we left the club, we went to a Chinese restaurant for debriefing. At this point, I really felt like we were just bunch of brothers hanging out. The bond between all the students are strong, and I felt like we were all proud of each other’s accomplishment, and we talked about random cool shit in life besides debriefing, Johnny and Showtime were also enjoying the night with us.
Day 3: I went through E and F in lecture. I was quite surprised that the ABCs team went into such details about the logistics part. They really took care of us from the head to the toes, literally! The instructors really wanted us to succeed in this game. At night, we went to a bar. We ran into a lot of couples in the bar. It was a great chance to practice amogging. But it was the two conversations that I had with Johnny and Showtime that I found most memorable.Maybe it was because I never had much approach anxiety and was always out trying to improve myself, or maybe everybody saw me as a young guy that doesn’t have much going for him, for some reason I felt like Johnny never cared much about me. But this night, when I once again failed to take my time in the set as the instructors told me to, when I tried to isolate or go into D too early, Johnny snapped, he harshly criticized me. After that, I told Johnny that I felt freaking beta for the first time during bootcamp. Then I looked him in the eyes then said: “it’s ok because I know you love me like a little brother.” Then I saw Johnny nodding him head. At that moment, I just couldn’t hold up the tears in my eyes. I knew that Johnny really cared about me, and he was like the big brother that I never had in my life! I knew that the only way that I can make him proud was to succeed, so I turn around opened the closest set with the tears still on my face. Johnny later made a joke about it. I also spent a long time talking to showtime about amogging. I told him that I always thought amogging as an aggressive thing, I’m competitive and I want to win. But he used a superman analogy to tell me that you can be a good pua or a bad one. I realized that I go out to meet friends and have fun too, not just to pick up girls, and take them away from their boyfriends. I knew that my aggression probably comes from the frustration of being an angry Asian man. But now I can proudly say that I will always go out to have fun, and nobody is going to make me mad because I’m more emotionally intelligent. The night ended at 2:00, then after debriefing, we all went our separate ways. I really felt a sense of lose. I didn’t want it to end, I felt like we were all brothers. But every beginning has an end and every end is a new beginning!
Johnny: like I said, I felt like you are the big brother that I never had. I really enjoyed learning from you. Even though that I’m a few years younger than you and I don’t have much going for me now, I will always remember you! You showed me the way, and I’m going to take this and change my life. I’m going to tell myself that I can do this! As I’m writing this, I can’t help but get all emotional here. Let’s just leave it here.
Showtime: I learned a lot from you over the weekend. Not just pick up, but also how to be a man. For a guy that is same age as me, your maturity level is just unreal! You shared some of your experience growing up and dealing with family, they really helped me realize what is possible and what I need to improve on.
APB: Even though I didn’t have the pleasure to meet you in person, I want to especially thank you for setting up the program and blog. It was reading your blogs that give me the strength to push myself in the field, go into the hardest situations. I know that you personally went through all that to get to this point, and what we are going through in the beginner’s hell is nothing comparing to all the hard work you put in. Thanks again for showing us the way!
Fellow students: I really enjoyed learning and growing with all you guys. During the bootcamp, I realized that all of us are real guys that deserve to have quality women in our life. We are all fun and genuine, and I will definitely keep in touch with you guys!
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