The harsh reality is, a lot of pick up artists are value leeches.
You may be a value leech if:
You only want to wing with guys that are better than you.
You hate newbies, even though you were one yourself a few months ago.You use the excuse “I don’t want to supplicate” as a way to be cheap.
You use the excuse “I don’t want to supplicate” as a way to be cheap.
You will accept favors from people, and never give back in return, because you are “alpha”
When running into a pick up guru or instructor in field, you will pretend you are his best friend and ‘on his level’, even though he has no idea who you are, to show that you are of high value.
You read posts or forum topics, and think to yourself “I already know this”
You lurk in forums but never reply or contribute.
You only start topics in hopes that you get a lot of replies, and not because you want to genuinely help others.
You regurgitate other people’s materials without giving the original author credit as pass it off as your own in your posts, blog, and/or website.
You want to become a pick up instructor because you think you’ll become rich and famous, and not because you genuinely want to help others.
Okay, so how do you be a value giver without being taken advantage of, or worst of, supplicating?
Well, first, realize that you can be generous without supplicating. The difference is, if you offer to buy someone a drink as they are walking away, you might be supplicating.
However, if this person took the time to sit down with you and give you advice, it would be giving back value if you paid for their meal or drink.
To do list:
Next time someone goes out of their way to help you, thank them for it. Showing appreciation, is not supplicating, it is rewarding someone for being generous to you. Most value givers do it because it feels good for them to give.
Most generous people are generous because they have a lot to offer. When these people give value to you, DO NOT try to be Alpha or “High Value” by acting like it wasn’t a big deal to you, or that you were entitled to it.
People hate this, and will not want to help you ever again if you do.
When YOU do someone a value or go out of your way to help them, DO NOT expect them to give you something in return or help you in return.
The first step is to ask yourself during, and after every encounter you have with anyone, male or female is: “Is their life better now that they have met me?”
Yes, or No?
Written by Johnny Wolf
Topics: Secrets