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“Johnny you are stupid, and not thinking straight, you need prozac.”

That’s what one of my closest friends said after I told him my plans to move to Koh Tao. He asked me a serious of questions, mainly “why? are you sure? what are you doing to do about money? what about this, what about that?”

Then he started saying, “you know your life will be ruined if you leave it, you can’t just come back and expect everything to be okay, you’ll be broke and have nothing.”

Then after 30 minutes of explaining my plans, and my reasons on why I want to go….he finally understand and gave in.

“Johnny, I’m a bit jealous of you, for your bravery, I think it’s awesome that you’re going.”
Funny…just like in pick up, people will always talk shit and try to keep you down. Remember when you found the game, and how awesome it was? It was sooo inspiring and amazing that you wanted to share it with everyone! And then quickly you realized that others didn’t see it in the same light as you, and would put it down, and make you feel stupid.

“You don’t need to learn game, you don’t need some stupid book, just be yourself, just be confident!” This was exactly the same tone that my friend used when he said to me “you don’t need to move to another country to be happy, you can do everything you want to do here.”

My answer was…well, if that was really the case, I would have done it by now. I guess I could drive to the beach every morning to go jogging. But I don’t…I could live a stress free and relaxed non-materalistic life here in Los Angeles, but I really doubt I would. But if I lived two steps from a white sand beach, had no worries in the world, and no one to impress, maybe I would wake up and go for a care free jog on the beach. In fact, I did. When I was in Phuket, it was one of the best experiences of my life. Waking up early, and running with wild dogs along the most beautiful scenery in the world.

It’s funny how even your best friends will try to find fault and make you feel bad when you find something that could possibly make you happy. I think it’s because they secretly want to hold you back because they’re not happy themselves. Forget everyone else. If you respect them, take their advice into consideration, it might be helpful. But ultimately it’s up to you to pursue happiness. We have a moral obligation to be happy.