Johnny Wolf's PUA Blog

I just re-read my last entry, and I realized that I was being a bit too harsh. Don’t go out and quit your job. It’s okay.

The sad, unfortunate truth is that normal guys that have good futures and careers cannot simply dress like a rockstar on weekends and get laid like rockstars. It’s a balance and a trade off. I think “The Game” by Neil Strauss is really to blame. The good thing about the book is that it inspired us to become great, and it showed that we can become amazing with women no matter how much of a loser we were to start with.

But maybe it inspired us a little too much…maybe it was a bit exaggerated, and maybe, we’re not all meant to be gods with women.

To become a master pick up artist, you need to make a lot of sacrifices. Personally I got fired from a cushy white collar corporate job with an amazing company, got into $8,000 worth of debt, got rid of all of my friends, did things that made my family upset and worried, ruined any chance of ever living an anonymous life or becoming a politician, risked my safety, and basically sacrificed my total sense of self to develop a new improved persona.

Was it worth it? I’m not sure….

Yes, I got laid a lot and had some really amazing experiences that I otherwise may not have. Without game I never would have pulled off the threesome, slept with porn stars, had as many same night lays, or even had sex with as many white girls and girls outside of my ethnicity. But was it actually worth it?

Now that I understand women, and can analyze what someone is doing right and wrong, I get it. But often its really not worth it. In the beginning getting laid was worth whatever it took. But after you’ve done it so many times, you start asking yourself, is a one night stand really worth my time and energy? Do I really want to spend the next 5 hours gaming her just so we can have 30 minutes of sex. It’s hard to explain, but it’s kind of like climbing mount everest, the first time you’ll do anything to do it, no matter how hard it is or how long it takes. But after you’ve done it three times, climbing it is just hard work and energy.

So if you actually enjoy the climbing part of the journey then yes, it is worth it. But if you’re like me and you actually hate going to night clubs, you don’t like to dance or even drink, and you would rather be at your friends house cooking dinner or playing board games, then maybe its not worth it. If you enjoy going to nightclubs and bars, then maybe getting good at pick up is right for you, since it’s somewhere you want to be anyways.

But for me personally, if I could do it all over again, I would have just gotten good enough to get girls once in a while. I would have read one book instead of 50, and I would have taken one bootcamp instead of 4. But then again, its easy to say now, looking back, hindsight is always as clear as 20/20 vision. But fuck it, I made it this far, and I’m quite happy with my life and my achievements, so maybe it was good to aim high. So my advice to everyone reading this is, the only thing we know, is that we don’t know…aim for happiness, whatever that may be, just don’t assume happiness is the same as greatness, it’s not.