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Last Minute Sexual Reservations – How to overcome “We should wait” by Johnny Wolf

Have you ever been so close to fucking a girl, but then she just freezes up and says no? Maybe you’ve heard the legendary words,

“We should wait” or “We shouldn’t do this.”

It sucks, I know…I’ve heard it a hundred times.

And the thing that sucks most about it is how we feel afterwards. First we’re horny and frustrated, but worse, it’s a huge blow to our egos.

If you’ve ever been in a situation where you’re getting hot and heavy with the girl, and you take your dick out just for her to reject you and say no, you know how it feels. First you get angry at her, then at yourself. Maybe it was my fault, you might think…maybe she doesn’t like me….maybe my dick is too small. A lot can go through your mind when this happens, but relax, you did a good thing.

First off, pat yourself on the back for getting that far with the girl. And realize, if she let you that far, chances are you’ll soon go all the way as long as you keep your cool. Ironically, here’s where a lot of guys stop calling, and simply give up on her.

5 Easy Ways to Over Come Last Minute Sexual Reservations

1. Make sure she is significantly turned on:

The first time you have sex with a new girl, make sure you spend twice as much time during foreplay. A easy trick is to make her cum one time first with either oral sex or by fingering her to near climax…then as she’s begging you to fuck her, give her what she wants.

Don’t make the same mistake I did though. A few months ago I was hooking up with this cute little Spanish chick and ended up making out with her and fingering her in my friends bedroom. It had only been a few minutes but I could have sworn she said, “fuck me already.” So I immediately jumped off, grabbed a condom and tried to put it on. She takes the condom off my dick and says no. I was so shocked that I assumed she meant she wanted me to fuck her without a condom. So I grabbed another one. Turned out that she meant no, we’re not fucking tonight. If I had just kept turning her on to a point where she was about to climax, instead of jumping the gun at the first sign, it would have made for a vastly different night.

2. Make sure she knows you’ll still respect her in the morning

One of the main reasons girls make guys wait is because she’s unsure if you’ll still respect her in the morning, and more importantly still want to see her again. Too many idiot guys fuck a girl once and ignore their calls or make them other wise feel used afterwards. The ironic thing is, there guys do that to protect their own ego. The figure that if the girl was “easy” enough to fuck on the first date, that something must be wrong with her…while they should be thinking that they got her because they themselves are highly sexually attractive men.

Easy ways to let a girl know you’ll still respect her even after having sex include, making a date for next week. Talk about it before you get into bed, and then reconfirm your date while in foreplay.

While fingering her say: “I’m really glad I met you, and I’m really looking forward to watching so and so movie with you/trying so and so restaurant with you next week.” The best way to do this is to actually mean it. As we all know, and have read in the Sex God Method, it takes time and practice with a girl to properly convert her and make her a good lover. So make it a habit not to have one night stands, keep her around even it is just as a fuck buddy, just don’t forget the buddy part.

3. Agree with everything she says: no matter what!

Never ever, ever, ever, ever, argue logistically with a girl during sex.

If she says, “We shouldn’t be doing this, my roommate will be home soon.”

Do not say, “But baby, it’s only 12:46am, and the bar closes at 1:30am, and by the time they get their car from valet and drive back here, it’ll be 1:50 at the soonest so we have at least one hour and four minutes to do it.”

The reason why this never works, is because even though as a guy, that makes perfect logistical sense, girls don’t’ think that way, especially when it comes to sex. Bringing her mind back into logic is the worst thing you can do to kill the mood. So instead, just agree with her and turn her on even more.

I remember one time I was close to hooking up with a girl when she said, “But Johnny, we just met.” Now as tempting as it was for me to argue with her and say, “No we didn’t, we technically met a few weeks ago even though we don’t remember each other and since it’s past midnight, this is really the third day.” But instead, all I said was:

“I know, you’re right, it’s crazy how we just met and we’re already so into each other….this is bad, (fingering her and kissing her more) but this feels so good.”

She never mentioned it again and we ended up fucking that night. So next time you hear any last minute sexual reservations, resistance, or excuses, just agree with her, and turn her on a bit more to over come it, and keep going forward.

4. Make sure you have all four elements of the DEVI Model (sex god method)

If any of the components of amazing sex is missing from your foreplay so far, she might not feel that sex would be worth it. If you haven’t read the Sex God Method by Daniel Rose yet, stop everything, and read it now.

It’s true that women have a lot more to lose when having sex with a guy than he does. Even though there are condoms, birth control, and abortion, women still fear getting pregnant or an std. They are rightfully fearful as well, since a women’s life is drastically changed when she gets pregnant. Think about it, how many guys would date a girl that already has a child? How many women look the same after they’ve had their stomachs stretched? A woman has a lot to lose in terms of her sexual value every time she has sex. So make sure she knows it’ll be worth it.

Even before having sex, you can start showing her that you have the four components of amazing sex. Make sure you have lead her, and shown that you are a dominate alpha male. Show a little bit of emotion, at least enough to show that you have the potential to care about her in the future. Variety isn’t as important the first time you have sex, but it’s nice to bring up the topic of crazy places you’ve had sex, or other ways to show that you are adventurous and sex will never become mundane with you. The last is immersion, make sure that you’re not in your head the whole time thinking about how to get laid. Instead, enjoy every step of the way with her, and be present during the foreplay and enjoy that as well. If you do all of the above, she’ll know that there’s a good chance that you’re a fantastic lover and sex with you would be well worth the risks.

5. Try, and Try Again, but know when to take 2nd place.

The first time a girl says “we shouldn’t,” consider it a reflex, if she says it again, most likely it is what we call token resistance. The first two “no”s don’t mean much, and should be expected, especially if the “no”s are “we shouldn’t.” Keep moving forward, turning her on and getting her more in the mood. Or if she resists, take a step back and move to a different part of her body to turn her on. A third no however, could very well however mean not today.

My advise is to sexually escalate as fast as she is comfortable, not as fast as you are. And worse comes to worse, don’t let her leave with you blue balled, horny and frustrated, instead just take the silver medal.

A lot of guys get angry, frustrated, and end up walking out on a girl because she won’t have sex with him. I know, I’ve been there, but then I realized that as long as she makes me cum, somehow, afterwards I really don’t care if we had sex that day or not.

I remember one time, I was hooking up with a girl, it was our 2nd or 3rd date and she just wouldn’t let me take it any further. Her clothes would come off, then back on, and hours went by of me trying to do everything in the book to get her to let me fuck her. I was ready to give up and drive her home, but then I realized that that would just leave me sexually frustrated with blue balls. So instead, I simply told her,

“Sweetie, you turned me on so much that I really need to cum….if you’re not ready to have sex today, it’s okay, but I’m going to have to relieve myself at least.”

I’ve actually done this many times with many different girls, because I realized that it feels almost just as good to have a girl give you a blow job, hand job, or even just kiss your neck and rub her tits on you while you jack yourself off. Afterwards you’ll both feel more sexually bonded and chance are you’ll end up having sex with her sooner than later because you didn’t get angry.

Last Words and Final Advice:

Whatever you do, just remember, don’t get angry at yourself or at her. Last minute sexual reservations or resistance is normal and there are ways around it. I hope you remember these tips the next time you’re in this situation.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf
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