There’s a guy I know on the island, an Asian guy from New York named Kai, who happens to have the body of Adonis…the greek god. Living on an island, he just walks around with no shirt all day.
Girls come up to him and say “I had to tell you that you are beautiful.”
In which he responds, “Only on the outside.”
Hanging out with him, I’ve realized that he kind of just says whatever he wants. However, he builds so much physical attraction that he can mess up 90% of the time and he still gets more women than he can handle.
The reason why I know, that verbal game has almost nothing to do with his attraction is because he’s currently hooking up with a French girl who doesn’t speak a word of English…and he doesn’t speak a word of French.
The Lesson: If we spent as much time in the gym, eating healthy and working out, as we do reading pick up books and opening sets. We would have a huge advantage in the attraction stage.
However, a minimal understanding of game, and a very good understanding of logistics and structure will still be important. But either way, we should start hitting the gym, hard.
Edit: A few weeks later, I’ve been hanging out with another guy that is in almost as good shape, but has zero game and zero knowledge of logistics, and he hasn’t gotten laid in a year.
Balance really is the key, yes Physical attraction is much much easier to obtain if you’re in great shape, but without knowledge of game and pulling women, it’s useless on it’s own.
Kai gets laid so much because he gets attraction, is confident enough to go for it, and had just enough game to pull it off.
The verdict: If you’re chubby or fat, you need to start working out to get to a normal body, whenever I’ve been overweight, it’s been at least 20x harder to f-close than even when I was just normal. For me, 200lbs is in good shape for me, 220 is the cut off point where it becomes a big hinderence for me to f-close, and any time I’m 240+ it takes me twenty times the effort to f-close, which means I have to do everything 99% correctly when I’m out of shape.
For skinny guys, just get big enough where you are confident. That’s it. Think about it from a guys point of view. A fat girl gets zero attention, no matter what she does, she’s just unfuckable.
You don’t need to have the body of adonis, but you need to be in the fuckable zone.
Here’s “The Complete Workout Routine for an Asian Dude” by Kevin Feng:
http://abcofattraction.com/community/viewtopic.php?f=50&t=2663
Johnny, something tells me you’ve been down these days. Most recent posts are filled w/ nothing but negativity, and you sound like you’ve lost confidence. Maybe your game hasn’t been going well. Please do cheer up, get your inner game again, and take action. Hit that gym, maybe go on a project to hit 5% body fat and stick to it for months, if you have to. Be positive and aggressive. I hate seeing anybody so down, least of all, you. There’s no shortcut in life, and you probably know it.
Looking good doesn’t hurt. That’s a fact. However, I find myself getting laid more when I learned more about game then when I was skinnier. I’ve gained 20 pounds over the last year due to injuries and used that time to get my game better. I went from sleeping with two girls to 10.
My question is how that guy runs game when he can’t speak the same language. I’ve been traveling South America for the last 5 months and it’s frustrating as hell to not be able to do anything with these chicks.
Can Kai pull chicks consistently who don’t speak the same language as him?
Adventurer, you’re right, my posts have been very negative recently and it wasn’t a good thing. Part of it was realizing that everything I’ve been doing has been shortcuts. I’ve realized that I never really earned a lot of the things I’ve “talked myself into” or girls that I “gamed” and I want to finally deserve them.
After the 10 day meditation though, I did find balance. I realized that it wasn’t all game and tricks, that I really did improve myself and I did deserve a lot of what I’ve gotten and the girls I’ve gotten. =)
o yea a great bod actually starts with u…in the swinging department…more desire…more ability…more pleasure…more evrything. Btw Johnny ur f-close info is hilarious thx.