The Problem:
One thing I’ve noticed in many years of opening sets is that anytime I had to repeat my opener, it went poorly. Part of it is approaching with the wrong voice tonality or not using kino, eye contact and all of that to get her full attention first, but another part of it can’t easily be explained, but somehow takes your power away.
The Solution:
Luckily the solution to this is extremely easy, the first solution would obviously be to approach correctly and loud enough. But shit happens and you mess up sometimes right? Well just use my “Four-Second Pause” technique. All you have to do is look at her, wait patiently and count to four in your head.
What happens next:
90% of the time she’ll replay it mentally in her head and answer your question. And the other 10% of the time, she’ll apologize and ask you to repeat yourself again, either way you’ll not be in the power position.
If she asks me to repeat myself again after the 4 second pause, I simply restate the question but with different words. Never repeat the exact same phrase for a second time.
The Four-Second Pause Replay technique also works for loud club environments when you’re already in set with her and she simply couldn’t hear you the first time. Do the same thing and remember to never ever, repeat yourself without counting mentally to four first.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
So far some of my openers always work. I usually have good pick up lines.