Johnny Wolf\'s PUA Blog

Most of you guys don’t know this, but “The Social Secrets” wasn’t intended to be a pick up artists blog, if it was I would have just called it “Johnny Wolf’s PUA Blog” or something. Instead, it was supposed to be a place where I could share some of the life hacks and secrets I’ve learned along the way and eventually compile it all into a book.

Through the PUA Journey I’ve studied tons of books on Psychology, Body Language, and had thousands of hours in field testing out theories on social behavior, not to mention that I actually went to school for this stuff, I graduated from university with a degree in Social Science. Anyways, with all this random knowledge, I’ve realized that most of it doesn’t just apply to picking up women, it applies to everything in life. So aside from being my personal blog about my crazy life adventures and pick up tips, I’m also going to start sharing social secrets you can use at work and in your personal life.

Social Secret #1: The best way to apologize and (not) make excuses when you’ve messed up.

So you’re late to work, school, or an important meeting. The most common response most people give is “I’m sorry I’m late but………” (there was traffic, there was a problem on the bridge, my printer was broken, etc)

First off, realize that any reason you are giving is an excuse. And by using the word “But” after your apology you’re not being sincere. People may let it slide, BUT they will not forgive or forget.

Instead use this magical phrase that has gotten me out of tons of situations.

“I’m really sorry. It will never happen again.”

That’s it. Simple. No excuse or reason needed. In fact, most of the time people are so relived that I didn’t try to make an excuse about being late, breaking something, perving on their sister, hitting them in the face, stealing their car, or messing up in some other huge way they let it go and truly forgive and forget. The best thing is that if they really are curious on why you were late or messed up, they’ll ask you for your excuse after the fact and by this time, they’ve already forgave you, so whatever you say will be backwards rationalized as a fine reason.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf