While getting my haircut yesterday I overheard two English guys talking about pulling girls.
UK guy: “Man, everyone thinks it’s so bloody easy to get laid while traveling, but it’s not.”
Sitting in that chair, I thought about what he had said, and realized how spot on he was. While traveling, it seems like there are so many more opportunities to get laid. There are young backpacking girls everywhere, often you are sharing a dorm room with a bunch of girls. Girls are in bikinis, drinking, and away from their parents and friends.
And the best thing is, you can approach any girl by using the tried and true chat up line, “Hi, where are you from” and continue the conversation with “How long are you traveling for, where are you going next, etc etc”
HOWEVER, the reason why it’s more difficult to get laid. And I took a survey of 20 guys I met in the past few weeks on how many of them actually hooked up and had sex girls girls during this trip, it turned out that most guys made out or even fingered a girl or two during their 3 or so weeks of traveling, but only a few of them actually had sex.
Back home, in San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York, London, where ever, it’s harder to approach girls, and harder to meet people your own age that have freedom to have fun. Opening is more difficult as it’s not always a social situation, and rejection is more often harsher. But I’ve discovered that there is a direct correlation between how difficult it is to open sets and how easy it is to close them, aka get laid.
Examples: In dorms where you meet up to 20 girls per night, most guys don’t get laid. But on the street while doing cold approaches, you might only meet one or two girls, but your chances of hooking up become a lot greater.
In Los Angeles, it was difficult to cold approach especially during the day, but whenever I did, I had huge success from it.
When approaching a group of 8 guys and 1 girl, it was more difficult than approaching 4 girls by themselves, but I’ve gotten laid more from mixed sets that I ever have from all girl or solo girl sets.
Lesson Learned:
Approach the easy sets for practice opening, but if you want to actually get laid, or get a girlfriend, don’t take the easy way out. You will have more success showing your balls and putting them on the line.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
Johnny, that is some great advice and definitely some truth in it. If that girl is really some special girl in your eyes, then there is no excuse NOT to approach her, simply because she is in a mixed set.
Do you think mixed sets work better with a direct or indirect/situational approach in your experience?
Hello Johnny,
Thanks you for the posting. I always find your advice very motivating and genuine. I will definitely keep this advice in mind as I go out tonight and try to approach the hard sets. I get the idea. It is important to demonstrate balls and standing out.
picks, for mixed sets, I like to open indirectly if it is a social situation, basically anywhere where everyone can hear you. You don’t want to be rude to the friends and ignore them.
If it’s really loud at a club, don’t try to entertain the group, just go direct on the girl you are interested in.