Want to know the exact method to manipulate any woman you want? Want to make any girl attracted to you? Well, sorry but it isn’t possible. You cannot force someone to be attracted to you, no pick up line, dhv routine, or gimmick is going to make a girl who doesn’t like you, suddenly want to be with you.
The only thing that the pick up artists community has done is figure out what women are attracted to in the first place, and allow guys to manipulate themselves into becoming that guy. The only thing the seduction community has does with all of it’s NLP is trick guys into hypnotizing themselves into being more confident.
Is that a bad thing? Is the whole PUA Community a big scam? No, definetely not. Why not learn what women are attracted to and actually become that guy instead of faking it?
For me personally, in the years I’ve been a part of the whole PUA community, I’ve realized that all the magic bullets, openers, demonstration of high value routines and stories worked but guys would fail because it was incongruent with them. I remember at one of the PUA Summit Events one of the Style Life guys came dressed in full motocross gear. But then he secretly told me that he doesn’t even know how to ride a motorbike.
I’m sure the outfit got attention and women would open him and ask him about it. I’m sure that he might even have gotten some girls in bars and clubs impressed, but how long did that last? The girl would eventually figure out that he doesn’t have a motorcycle and that it was all a big lie. Why do that to yourself? It is much easier just to pay $200, take a class and learn how to ride a motorcycle.
For me training as a pro muay thai fighter has become who I am, and women find it attractive. I don’t even need to be the best fighter in the world, as long as I am passionate about it and actively pursuing it. It’s the same for guys that pursue to be a rock star, singer, dancer, athlete, dot com billionaire, or CEO. Use the information in the pick up artists community to figure out what women want, figure out what you want, and go for it. It’s much easier to trying to devise scams to trick women into thinking you are someone else in a nightclub, only to later figure out you’re a big lie.
Other qualities that women find attractive:
Spontaneous – Become spontaneous. Take an improv acting class to get over your fear of doing stupid shit, start doing stupid random shit with your friends, and slowly let it become part of you. I wasn’t always the kind of guy that would dance with a girl in the middle of the street, not caring what anyone else thought, but now I am that guy, and girls love it.
Confident – Become confident. Confidence is earned, not learned. You cannot become confident by reading how to’s online, you must take action in real life. Put yourself though something difficult such as training for the Tough Mudder Race like I am, sign up for a competitive sport, do something to earn your confidence.
Humor – Become Funny. Part of being funny is simply being spontaneous and confident. Again, take an improv comedy class, and have fun with it.
Physically Fit – Work out, Eat Healthy. Girls find fit guys attractive, duh. Why is this the last thing PUAs are willing to work on? It’s because most guys that google “how to pick up women” are looking for a short cut. Fuck the short cut, put in the time and effort and get fit, it’ll make your entire life easier.
Stop trying Manipulate women, it’s fucking stupid and is giving guys a bad name. Instead manipulate yourself and actually become that attractive, strong, physically fit, funny, confident guy.
Use the knowledge out there to better yourself and stop looking for the short cut. Even a 3 day bootcamp isn’t a shortcut. Anyone who has taken one knows that it simply lays a foundation for everything you will need to work on and it cuts out all of your bad habits that you have built up from years of reading online bullshit and learning from society and friends.
Good luck out there, and remember that saying that everyone fucking hates to hear?
Be Good Looking, Be Yourself and Be Confident? – Well turns out that’s true, that’s really all you need to do and turns out it’s all possible.
3 Step Plan to Manipulating Yourself to Become Attractive:
1. Get in the best shape of your life, and groom yourself.
2. Take on an interesting/attractive Career and Hobby.
3. Earn your confidence by challenging yourself and be competitive.
Do those three things and if you still feel the need to learn the latest tactic to pick up women and manipulate them, come back to me. Trust me, you won’t.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf














One of the most sane pickup coaches there is. Starting a decent job next week, and I’m going to put a little money aside each month to save up for a bootcamp. Will you be doing more later on in the year?
Its about time I step up and start getting actual training.
-TJ
Hey TJ, good luck and congratulations on starting that job man. The only bootcamps I have planned for 2011 are the ones in Sept in SF and Vegas. It’ll be great to have you there.
“the most sane pickup coach” – that should be my motto. Thanks for the compliment.
It’s an interest shift I’ve seen coming from you in your blog posts lately – maybe you’ve internalized so much that ‘game’ is natural and you can no longer see what you’re doing right. Granted, hobby and fitness choices are important, but, at the end of the day, you still need to open or know how to react if opened; you still need to be able to read signals, and you still need to know how to carry yourself. A lot of the basics of Game from the earlier years focused on this: interpreting signals, knowing body language, and knowing what/how to say it. Lifestyle choices do not by no means address this, IMHO.
Johnny, this was a great read. I like the advice you give about actually becoming a person of adventure and not just a poser. I signed up for the SF Bootcamp in September and I can’t wait to learn from the experience. -B.
this is stupid advice for noobs/afc out there. your talking life style when your done learning and internalizing pick up when its second nature. telling this advice to a noobie who goes for a better job/ better body isnt gonna do jack shit for pick up. he cant open cause attraction etc, his outer game is crap. his inner game is gonna be destroy once he sees those ugly dudes with hot chicks and wonders why he has a great body/job and he cant get any girls. and i know why those ugly guys got the girls, its cus either social circle or meeting through work
B. Hey glad you signed up for my SF bootcamp, see you in September bro it’s going to a fantastic experience.
PUA Vault, and Truth – You guys do have a point, one of my former students Will from NY always emails me and reminds me that same point, he is one of those guys who had a great job, owned a fantastic apartment in Manhattan, and couldn’t even approach a girl. But that’s why I continue to teach bootcamps, I truly believe that you can learn enough about pick up in a 3 day weekend, granted you have a good instructor – that you’ll never need to read another pick up book or forum again.
As I said in the post, a bootcamp lays a foundation for everything that you’ll need to continue to work continue to work on.
Great points. It seems as though people who try to manipulate tend to lose themselves in the process.