The reason why the articles in Cosmo don’t work is because they are written in a “Sex in the City” type way, where they write what they think you want to hear. Even when you ask a girl what turns her on, she’ll say something that won’t make her sound like a shallow slut. But luckily, I found a girl who was willing to tell it really as it is. Unedited, unscripted. This is how Amy and other girls like her really think.
These are my top qualities/features that attract me to guys, There are some pointers, so take notes :)
1). Confidence: there is nothing sexier than a man who is confident in his own body. A man who is comfortable in his own skin and body makes me much more comfortable being with him. So even if you don’t have the slightest idea what you’re doing, act like you do and hold your head high. I’d rather be with an unattractive man who is secure than a gorgeous guy who is constantly doubting and putting himself down because eventually I’ll start doubting you too.
2). Hands: I have a hand fetish, I’ll admit it! You can tell all about a guy by looking at his hands. If he is fit, his hands will be nicely shaped and muscular; if you’re real lucky you’ll even have those amazingly sexy, subtle veins that tense as you write, type, etc. I love a guy with strong, masculine hands. Also, if a his nails are cut and clean, it tells you a lot about their personal hygiene. So guys, take care of those hands and lotion them every one in awhile!
3). Sense of Humor: I’m big on playing around every once in awhile, so someone who is constantly tense and can’t take a joke will really bang heads with me. A guy’s ego shouldn’t be hurt if I playfully make fun of him (once again, this goes back to confidence) or his car. It’s adorable when a guy can sit around with me all day and just wrestle and joke around.
4). Body: I’m not going to be fake and say that a guy with a six pack and huge dick does not matter to me but I understand perfectly that this ideal man is pretty rare. However, there are small details that I, and I’m sure many girls, also take into account that guys might not be aware of. You don’t have to have defined abs to look fit and sexy. If you workout regularly, your body will be healthy and toned. How does a girl know the difference? We can by the way your muscles flex subtly while heavy lifting and even that tight ass that we grab on to ;) So don’t think that just because you don’t workout 24/7 that your body can’t be sexy, because it can. Freckles, scruff, tattoos, and soft skin are also put into consideration. Girls don’t care about size, they care about how well you use it.
When it comes down to it, girls want a guy that is sexually attractive and has a confident personality. That’s really it, and quite fucking simple. Why guys spend so much time in the pick up world learning useless shit like magic tricks, palm reading, speed seduction, hypnosis, NLP, Octoberman Sequence,”The Cube” and other gimmicks is because guys are looking for a magic bullet, a short cut. Fuck all that. The short cut, is to get in decent physical shape, and to work on your social skills enough that you become confident. That’s it.
You’ll also notice that girls are attracted to random things that you never would have thought of, like a guy’s hands. But when it comes down to it. If you are not that guy mentioned above, don’t worry, you can become him. Start working out and getting into shape, and while doing that, work on your confidence. The way to get socially confident, which allows you to be funny and the center of attention is to stretch your limits and push yourself to talk to strangers, into set, and approach. A good bootcamp, at least the ones I teach, include things that build your confidence like improv practice, opening sets and talking to strangers, becoming sexual, going for the kiss, transitioning to sex, how to be good in bed, proper kino escalation, and how to project confidence non-verbally through body language, positioning, eye contact, and touch. I’ll be teaching my next bootcamp somewhere in the U.S.A. this June. I haven’t picked a city yet, so if you are interested, I may come to your town, leave a comment and let me know where you are from and where you’d want to do it.
Either way, read Amy’s write up again now that I’ve broken it down for you. And seriously take a look at your own pick up journey. Chances are, you are looking for a shortcut. Trust me. There isn’t one. Start changing your life today. The biggest regret you’ll have is letting another 3 years pass without having a girlfriend. Go for it and seize the fucking year.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
“The short cut, is to get in decent physical shape, and to work on your social skills enough that you become confident.”
Only thing I would add is start talking to lots and lots and lots of women every single day… Around thirty a day is a good start. Simply stepping to girls as a man, no more, no less has gotten me further than any PUA gimmicks.
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