I used to think that every single guy out there deserves to be with a great girl. There are so many single women out there, and so many single guys, wouldn’t life be so much easier if they all just got together? But let me ask you this. If you saw your soul mate walk across the street tomorrow, would you have the balls to approach her, ask her out, kiss her?
First, ask yourself, do I really deserve the girl of my dreams right now? There are two types of guys that I meet in the PUA Community. Every guy wants a hot ass girl that is out of their league, but most PUAs really don’t fucking deserve it. Maybe subconsciously they know this so they spend all day searching for the newest pick up tactic, speed seduction routine, NLP phrase, Octoberman Sequence bullshit to trick the girl into getting into bed with him. But what guys don’t realize is that even if you somehow get lucky, you don’t get to keep her. And you’ll be even lonelier when she leaves. If this is you, it’s time to really look yourself in the mirror and stop looking for short cuts.
Stop giving off the creepy vibe: Nine out of ten of these guys give off a creepy vibe which no girl wants. Starting today, stop watching internet porn. It’s fucking up your sense of reality and more importantly, time and patience. Also stop jacking off or thinking sexually about girls you have not been intimate with. If you see a hot girl, do not allow yourself to fantasize about her unless you’ve actually hooked up with her.
The other type of guy, which are the majority of guys that take bootcamps with me, are guys that did everything right. They did what their parents and society told them to do, but they didn’t get the girl still. They went to a good college, got a good job, saved up some money, some even bought a home. Some guys are even in good shape and are funny, kind, generous and interesting. But still they are single. If this is you, good news. From my experience you are just one or two small steps away from getting girls, you just need to figure out what those one or two things are.
Most commonly, guys are not social enough. You’re just not meeting enough girls. Cold approach is a great skill to learn, go out and do it. But as I talk about a lot is stepping up your social circle and then your lifestyle and bring girls to you. Go out once a week and cold approach at a bar or club. PUA Lairs are good for finding local wingmen to do this with. Then go out and build your social circle, have girls in your life, they bring in in more. And when you have opportunities, capitalize on it. Try to kiss a girl every single time you are out at a bar or club, even if it doesn’t happen, you are building up your balls.
As for meeting your soul mate. It takes patience, just make sure you are ready when she appears. You might only have a small window, and fate only opens doors, it doesn’t push you through it. For me personally, I met the girl of my dreams a few months ago and if it wasn’t for all those years building up my confidence to approach random girls, the time I spent in the gym working on my physical attractiveness, and the time I spend in the game that make me comfortable with going for the kiss and moving things sexually. Maybe that opportunity would have passed me by and I wouldn’t be with her today. If you want to be happy, and be with your dream girl. Be ready for her. I’m glad I was.
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
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Great article, lots of value.
Let me bring some sauce to the banquet.
If we define ‘Soulmate’ as a supremely hot, high value girl of exceptional beauty and accomplishment who is into us from the moment we meet, then we can easily take bars and clubs off the list of places we’re realistically going to meet her. The odds of her being in there are pretty much the same as yours winning the lottery while being struck by lightning as a Great White Shark is biting off your leg. Sure, it’s ‘possible’ but highly improbable. Don’t bother.
Social Circle isn’t much better – unless one’s group is comprised of literally thousands of eligible attractive women. The maths just don’t work.
Street game in a large urban environment is probably the only situation we have readily available to us where the odds finally tilt in the guy’s favor. But only when he takes massive action and goes out daily to meet lots of women. A minimum of 20 per day – 30 is optimal (and yeah, we have the stats to prove this is so).
Only when guys are systematically meeting upwards of 1000 new women every month, month after month, do they start to have a fighting chance of meeting Ms. Right, and along the way they truly realize that there really are hot women out there who will instantly like them for no other reason than … she just really likes him. From there it’s his job to screen carefully to find out if there really is more to her than meets the eye and whether she’s up to the task of being his Ms. Everything.
Be Amazing!
DH, thanks for the comment.
I would say that it is definitely possible through a good social circle if it is filled with high value friends and high quality women. You don’t need thousands of people in it. If you have 30 friends who all have 30 friends who all have 30 friends that is 27,000 people that could possibly introduce you to your soul mate.
But my favorite method isn’t even that. It’s having a hobby or lifestyle where I meet girls that would fit my idea of the perfect girl. I love girls that like to travel, are spontaneous, are physically fit and like outdoor activities and enjoy the same hobbies as me. Which is why the lifestyle I chose, working at a Scuba Diving resort on a remote island in Borneo 6 months of the year is perfect for meeting the girl of my dreams. Literally every day girls arrive, beautiful, tan, blonde and in a bikini from all over the world. Canada, England, Australia, Sweden, all traveling to come scuba diving. And all I have to do is say hello, how was your dive?
Instead of cold approaching 1,000 women a month on the street, I simply designed my life so 100 quality women to come to me instead.