I met this guy the other day. He opened every girl in the venue, did tons of kino, got every girl’s contact info, and seemed to be on top of his game. However, he goes home alone each night and never gets laid, or a girlfriend. To combat this, the next day, he tries even harder, opens even more girls, kinos even more, tries to go for the kiss even harder. But at the end of the day, he ends up just showing his desperation.
The thing that sucks the most is he has no idea what he is doing wrong. It seems like he’s doing everything right, he’s talking to a lot more girls, getting more numbers, but he’s getting less success. What really freaked me out about it is that he reminded me of me 5 years ago when I first got into the game. It was almost embarrassing to watch, and I felt bad for him, but it’s a phase that most puas go through. If you are acting a bit gay or effeminate, changing your voice, or the way you act when opening sets or talking to girls, you may have the same problem as Jeff as every other new pua.
The reason why guys over-try, act a bit gay, and do these stupid things is because in the beginning it’s easier. It makes you come in under the radar, just a fun, friendly guy. And no guys consider you a threat, girls open up easier, and it seems like it’s working. But it’s not. It’s just fucking you up in the long run. Cut that shit out asap before you go to bed one night and cry yourself to sleep wondering why you are getting rejection after rejection and sleeping alone each night even though you got 50 numbers that month. It took me a long time to figure it out, but there is no short cut when it comes to meeting women and becoming an attractive man. It took me years to figure it out on my own, but you don’t need to go through the same bullshit I did. Get help, open your mind and have a pro tell you what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong.
Good luck in your journey, may it be easier than mine was.