I just turned 31 and life is getting better each year as I get older. I finally know who I am, what I want, what I like, and what I will and will not put up with. And as far as my dating and love life, it’s helped. Girls are attracted to men that know what they want. A few years ago, I was like most of you guys. I just wanted a girlfriend, any girl almost as long as she was pretty. When other guys would tell me their type, I’d think, whatever, I just want a hot girl.
One of the most attractive qualities a man can have is not caring. If you ever wonder why girls chase after guys that seem like they don’t give a shit about the girl, it’s because it’s the exact opposite of a desperate guy that tries too hard. It’s a huge relief off my back to finally not have chasing women and dating as my #1 priority. Ever since I was 13 I’ve thought about nothing but hooking up with girls. Sure I had other hobbies, went to school, was into cars, but when it came down to it, it was all to get me girls.
What you can learn from this:
I don’t want this to be an inner game rant, so here are some practical things that will help you today.
1. Get the chasing out of the way so yo can move forward in your life.
The only practical way to get over wanting to fuck hot girls and have a girlfriend is to actually do it, then and only then can you truly not give a shit. In fact, hook up with a lot of girls this year, fuck a lot of girls, date a lot, and then move onto greater things.
2. Put in the work and approach 10 sets a week.
Start the habit of opening a girl every day no matter where you are. No hesitation, just see a girl and approach. And two nights a week go out to a social event or a bar and talk to girls there. The 1,000 sets to confidence system works, put in the work and get it over with.
3. Don’t waste your time online dating or looking for shortcuts.
It’s a waste of your time for most guys and you don’t learn how to approach, or escalate in person. Do it in real life.
4. Get a hobby that both gets you in shape and lets you meet attractive women.
This is a no brainier that not enough guys do. Join your local CrossFit gym, outdoors club, triathlete team, or anything else that fits the two criterion.
5. Stop being cheap.
Yes, CrossFit is expensive. Going out is expensive. Bootcamps are expensive. Having a personal trainer is expensive. But think about it. How much money are the best years of your life worth? If you try to change your life and better yourself the “free” way by reading ebooks and taking advice from random guys on forums, I guarantee that most of you will still be single a year from now, you’ll still have the same sticking points, you’ll still be out of shape, you still won’t be getting laid consistently, and you’ll look back three years from now, still unhappy thinking what did you do wrong. Just make sure you spend your money on something solid with good reviews.
The one thing that I learned the most from turning 31 is how fucking precious our time is. I never understood this until now. I promise you this. When you turn 40, you will look back and wish you would have made the changes when you were still young enough to enjoy it. If I could pay $10,000 to have gotten this shit out of my way 5 years ago so I could have enjoyed life and not have been worrying out how to meet girls I would in a heart beat. Don’t wake up 31 years old wishing you would have taken the reins of your life earlier.
I wish you the best of luck and I’m here to help. I’m back in the U.S. and will be doing a bootcamp in Vancouver and San Francisco this summer. Take control of your life this year and attend. It may change your life.
Vancouver
September 14th – 16th 2012
http://www.eventbrite.com/event/3412718533
San Francisco
September 28th – 30th 2012
http://www.eventbrite.com/event/3412766677
Warm Regards,
Johnny Wolf
The most sobering tip of them all that newbies can follow is to not rely on online dating.
I’ve really become to hate the grand emphasis on online game that everyone’s teaching.It’s seems like a shortcut,but it actually isn’t since you’re not doing online game during a huge portion of your day.So more emphasis should be put on real approaches everywhere.
I’d been following your blog for a while. This is a good post with some great advice. Just do it!
I’ve spent thousands of dollars on so called reputable dating systems (Lovesystems being one of them) hoping to get this part of my life handled once and for all. And so far the money spent does not equal the runs on the board, not even by a long shot. Now I’ve seen plenty of guys get ripped off by instructors not telling them truthfully where they are going wrong, while still paying the instructor week after week. So it doesn’t come as any suprise how a lot of guys have adopted this ‘cheapening out’ mentality.
It’s hard sometimes to find a program with an instructor that actually cares if you do well and has small enough classes to actually give you the attention for you to do well. The one problem I’ve never had was telling my students the honest reason why they suck with women and where they are fucking up. Listening to my advice and following the plan afterwards is on them though.
Great Advice Johnny! I hear lots of people saying similar things so you’re on track. I’m on 4 right now and now I don’t feel so bad about not being cheap and spending money on bootcamps and other self improvement things even when other people don’t recommend it because they are cheap. It’s my life and if I feel I get something for spending cash on it, it’s worth it and I shouldn’t care about their opinions.
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