PUA Forums are for losers. I don’t talk about this much, but I haven’t actively visited any internet forum for over 3 years now.

Fast Seduction, RSD Nation, SoSauve.net, Pick Up Artist Forum, PUA Forum, Casanova Crew, and all of the Lair Forums are all largely a waste of time. There are a few good articles written on there, and if you really want to use your time wisely, read the “best of stickys” then delete your account.

All forums are a place for guys to feel like they are a part of something cool and have friends without doing it in real life. Some are there to look for the next big magic bullet, or to impress other guys and build their own reputation. You cannot trust the advice on there since most of it has never been tested and the guy writing it is someone with 976 posts but has never had a girlfriend.

The live meetings however, thrown by your local lair, Casanova Crew, or the new Project: Hollywood are worth attending since you get to meet people in real life. It’s easy for a guy who hides behind his computer to say he is great with women and write lay reports, but meeting a guy in person can tell you a lot about who he is.

So why is Johnny Wolf still a part of the Pick Up Artist Community?

For every 9 wannabe PUAs that I come across, there is 1 guy that I genuinely want to help. Life is fucked up, the nice guy, who has a great education, a good job, is trustworthy, reliable, and good natured, doesn’t get the girl. He ends up being 28 single, never really had a girlfriend, can’t approach girls, and ends up either single, or worst, settling for some girl that he doesn’t even want to be with.

The only reason why I continue to teach bootcamps and don’t just leave the PUA Community entirely is because the students that come to me genuinely want to be better men and need my help. During one of my last bootcamps one of my students wrote this review which you can find here:

http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/reviews-testimonials-f42/bootcamp-review-las-vegas-september-9-2011-t6176.html

“Introduction:
Hi, my name is Chris Pham; I haven’t given myself a PUA name like some people did….yet. I’m 26 years old, and I’m Vietnamese. I have a college degree in Computer Science. And, most importantly, I had little experience with women; basically, I had a bunch of oneitis’s, meaning I got attached to the nearest girl in my social circle. This happened a lot over the years. I’ve had a oneitis with my friend. We we’re friends since high school, but she wasn’t interested, and long story short, after 7 years of friendship, we are no longer friends, sadly. Experiences like these is what drove me into the pickup game.

Why I decided to do the boot camp:
I didn’t decide on my own. My brother-in-law, who I consider to be my flesh-and-blood brother, and is also white haha, signed me up to this boot camp. We actually got interested in the game two years ago when he introduced me to Neil Strauss’s The Game. My brother asked me if I wanted to do it. I said, “Yes”. I don’t know why I agreed, because I’ve always had severe approach anxiety, and every time we talked about approaching girls or going to a boot camp, my heart would start beating fast, and I felt like I would die at that moment. But, that was one side of me, my weaker side; the other side of me was tired of the way things were going with my love life, and I wanted to be able to get with the girl I truly wanted. I also wanted to gain something else, confidence. It wasn’t just my relationship with women that suffered, it was everything else in my life; I was deathly afraid to try new things, such as Salsa dancing or Mixed Martial Arts, because I didn’t think I was good enough, and I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to socialize with those kind of people. I was afraid I was going to be that weird guy. That is why I decided to do this boot camp. I needed this.

About the ABC’s of Attraction structure and classroom education:
Before doing this boot camp, I’ve read “The Game”, and studied material ONLY from Neil Strauss and Mystery, since they were the stars in that book. So, here’s my advice, put everything you know about pickup, and put it aside, because it will only get in the way during the classroom lectures. You can reference them for material later on, but I think you need a clean slate in your mind to make room to establish a new foundation and for new material.

I loved the way the material was organized. Every topic, whether it was openers, number-closing, kiss-closing, or any part of the material, were separated into logical pieces, so that it was easier to analyze and understand. Before the boot camp, I tried a few canned openers, and I understood the general idea behind them, but I wasn’t fully sure how and why they worked. The structure of the material allowed me analyze each piece of a routine, and when I understood how one worked, it was easier for me to create and experiment with my own material. I also like how efficient the ABC’s of Attraction structure is; it seems like everything I learned about pickup has been streamlined to be efficient and effective. Basically, all the routines that had less than a 95 percent success rate have been taken out. I’m pretty sure I have A.D.D., since going to college for my Computer Science degree was pretty tough; I always had trouble grasping topics, but the structure of this material allowed me to grasp the concepts easily.

The classroom lecture was a must. I could read all the material in the world, but there were always some blanks to fill, which I could’ve done by going out and experimenting myself or have the instructors fill in those blanks for me. I prefer the instructors since having someone there who’s been through the same struggles, felt more personal, and through sharing his experiences, helped me get a better grasp on the topics. There are tons of material to go over, and you may not get through it all in those two or three days of the boot camp, but the instructors go over the core fundamentals. They go through each topic in-depth from opening a set to f-closing. In my opinion, you don’t need to go through and learn every single thing. What I needed was to build my foundation in each topic, which I can certainly did in those three days. And, once you build that foundation, then you can go over the extra material. There were also the drills that you had to do for each topicl. I thought this was one of the most important parts of the lecture, and, also, good practice of the material. I am very satisified how the material and lecture was setup.

About your instructor Johnny Wolf, and intern-approach coach Ben J. – Instruction, field work and demoing:
I love Johnny Wolf and Ben J., no homo! Haha! You know what I thought before I met Johnny? Johnny has been teaching for several years now, and he’s taught so many students, so I thought I was just another student to him, at least that’s how it was when I went to school for Computer Science. I was wrong. Johnny cared about me, and he really wanted me to succeed. Ben J. was awesome; he always made sure I kept my head high. They explained everything slowly and clearly. If I had a question about a topic we talked about already, they were happy to answer it. I mentioned previously I have minor ADD, I’m also a slow learner. So, when they lectured, or when I had to practice my material in front of them, I would sometimes forget what I had to say or what I had to do, but they were very patient with me and helped me through it. I appreciated that very much.

There was also some role play we did for everything we learned that day before we went out, where one of them would pretend to be a girl, and I had to run my routines on them. It was pretty amusing, but it was a good warm up, and learning experience. Doing these two or three times actually improved my improv skills. They were pretty accurate in portraying the women in the clubs, since they had so much experience with women.

While on the field, I would go around doing my sets. After every set Johnny and Ben would give me input on what I did wrong and what I needed to do; I lost a lot of sets, which was expected of me, but they reassured me that it was all right, and pushed me to keep going. If I needed a break, I chilled with them for a while to relax, and they were cool with that. It also gave me to time to reevaluate my strategies. That same night, I got two phone numbers from girls I really connected with, and yes, they were very cute. I was happy! I’ve never gotten a girl’s phone number before. All those sets that I lost, I forgot about them; they didn’t matter. Johnny and Ben pushed you, but they’ll only push you so much; you have to do the work. Johnny and Ben are great guys, and I didn’t want to let them down. It was that reason that I barely had approach anxiety; I had some, but it was manageable. I even got to watch them in action. Before the boot camp, I’ve never seen a PUA at work, only on Youtube and other videos. I know Ben is just an intern, but after seeing him in the field, they need to promote him to PUA haha! Johnny and Ben are the real deal. Anyway, I was able to watch and analyze them, and they did exactly what they taught me in the lecture. I knew for sure these tactics worked.

Was it worth the money and would you recommend it to others?:
After looking back at all I’ve done in those three days, then looking at myself and seeing how much I’ve changed since I signed up for the boot camp, this was totally worth it. I definitely recommend this to others who really want to change their lives. I’ll be honest, I wanted to quit before I even went to the boot camp because I was so nervous, and scared. I was so close to calling in and quitting so many times. Then I remember Johnny saying “…it’s easier to quit.”, then I remembered what my social life was like before I signed up. So, I forced myself to keep pushing through, and I’m so happy I stayed with it. This is the first time I felt pain like this, pushed through, and come out the other side. I’m very happy with myself because I now know first hand that you HAVE to experience the pain before you get to the pleasure with whatever goal you are trying to achieve. Pain is nothing compared to the results, and now I have enough confidence to try those activities I’ve been putting off. I know I have some work to do, but my life is already a lot better. I would recommend this to anybody, no matter what social level you are; you can be a person that’s never talked to a girl, held hands with a girl, or never had a girlfriend, sign up for a boot camp. Thanks Johnny and Ben!”

Chris is one of those guys who would make a great boyfriend to a lucky girl. He is smart, kind, educated, has a good job, and would be good to his girlfriend or wife. However, because he is just a nice guy he is not attractive to women. This is why PUA Bootcamps exist, to give the nice guy a chance at love. This is why I teach PUA Bootcamps and tolerate the idiots that leave stupid comments and troll on internet forums.

Best wishes and good luck out there. It’s a crazy world.

Johnny Wolf

Topics Covered:

Balancing: Bettering yourself as a man vs. Bettering your Social Skills
Being Strong, Alpha and Dominant vs. Being a Bitch
Field Report: The beautiful Russian Blonde
What I learned from training Muay Thai and fighting professionally in Thailand
Making a girl feel safe in your company
Real life example of creating a Sexy Stereotype
Simplifying yourself and your persona
Finding your limits and Pushing yourself to your limits
Preparing for something like the Tough Mudder and the Spartan race
Looking back to see how much you’ve actually improved year to year

To Listen you have two options. First is to just click the link, or you can right click and save it to listen to on you ipod. http://www.betterasianman.com/podcast/20111011_bam.mp3

Hope you enjoyed it, sorry about the background noise from us cooking in the background. It’s a bit annoying in the beginning but kind of adds to the realism and casualness after you get used to it. Well, at least that’s our excuse for having a life and getting ready for the girl’s to come over for dinner.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Stephan Bonnar: $68,000 and Martin Kampmann: $58,000 which goes to show that Asian American fans of the UFC are huge. He was even paid more than Dan Henderson and Mauricio Rua. But the real victory for Cung Le and for all the Asian American fans alike was having another Bruce Lee to look up to.

After the fight, Cung Le’s wife Suzanne came into the ring to support and comfort him. I wish we could hear what she was whispering in his ear, but it sounded like she was telling him that everything was okay, that he had a great fight and that she loved him. Cung Le is 39 years old, lives in San Jose, CA and is both an exciting fighter to watch but also an inspiration to Asian American’s everywhere.

Good job Cung, can’t wait to see you fight again.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

He rejects both of them, and the first comes back and says, “You can sleep with both of us tonight if you want.”

I’m there thinking, fucking idiot, go and fuck them. Later I asked why he didn’t and he said it was because they knew some mutual friends and he didn’t want to make it awkward. But realistically aside from him being in great shape and good looking, the reason the girls begged him to fuck was because he wasn’t trying to fuck them.

On the flip side, when a guy goes out specifically to game girls, pick up and f-close. Girls can sense it and it becomes unattractive.

So what do you do? It is ironic that becoming a “PUA”, studying game, and learning how to pick up girls, actually makes you less attractive to girls. Going out to pick up makes you less attractive. It is a fucked up thing. So what do I do? I try to keep balance, just like everything in life. The ying and the yang.

First, learn game so you know what to do when the opportunity arises, then forget about it, or at least put it in the back of your mind. Go out with your friends, have fun without the intention of hooking up, but unlike this guy, when the opportunity does pop up, don’t be a pussy and go for it.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Males

Can you chase a wounded deer through the forest?
(Run a mile in terrain under 8 minutes)

If you had to climb a tree or pull yourself over a fence could you do it?
(Complete 5 good arms extended pullups)

If you killed a 150 pound buck, could you carry it home?
(Squat 185 pounds, power-clean 135 pounds, and overhead press 105 pounds, or if you prefer, snatch 105 pounds)

If you were attacked, could you fight ferociously for 3 minutes?
(Spar/wrestle/grapple for 3 minutes, or complete 3 minutes of high intensity exercise)

If you had to jump across a narrow ravine, could you do it?
(Standing Broad Jump 8 Feet)

If a log fell on you, could you push it off?
(Bench press your weight)

Females

Could you walk with baby in tow for 4 hours?
(Complete a four hour hike with 20lb pack)

Could you fiercely defend yourself for 5 minutes?
(5 minute high intensity cardio circuit)

Could you climb a fence, or climb a tree?
(complete one pullup, or climb up a rope using your legs)

Could you carry 5 gallons of water from a well?
(10 front squats with 25 pound dumbells)

Could you run to safety in an emergency?
(Complete a two mile run in 20 minutes)

Original Source: https://www.onnit.com/category/lifestyle/

Where do you stand in being not even an Alpha male, but just someone we can survive?

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Brian Rose and Nic Gabriel talk real about how getting out of your comfort zone is the hardest and most necessary thing for humans to do, and the essential nature of meditation in their lives.

“The five biggest breakthroughs of your life will come from the five hardest events you’ve been through. Growth requires discomfort.” – Nic

Fast forward to 8:25 where it starts to get really good.

London Real - Episode #1 from Brian Rose on Vimeo.

http://www.londonreal.tv/

Arash Dibazar could be one of these guys that will become an extremely famous PUA Instructor in the next year or two and I’m happy to introduce you to him first. I wanted to get him to speak at the 2011 PUA Summit but it was way too late to squeeze him in, but you expect him to be there next year. So for now, I made a video interview with Arash, check it out and tell me what you think.

The reason why I think Arash will be good is because he is using game correctly, to build a naturally attractive lifestyle. He basically uses high value social circle game and club promotion game to surround himself with hot girls. But what I like about Arash that really surprised me is that he isn’t a natural, and he is extremely spot on with the traditional indirect Mystery Method as he was a student of Mystery and Matador.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Johnny Wolf’s Notes:

Why I constantly grow, improve and why I may be the best teacher: Because I am the only instructor who for the past 5 years sits in the audience and listens to every single speaker so I can constantly learn and evolve. The speakers that go home early or stand outside and chit chat never learn or grow.

Who here was at last year’s PUA Summit? Watched my video and heard my speech? Who read the 4-hour workweek as recommended? Who actually went out and bettered their lives and made themselves more attractive this year?

Three of the most important things in pickup that for some reason no one teaches.

1. How not to be weird and creepy –
Do guys that are weird and creepy know they are? Delusional confidence?
Two easy ways to make sure you are not weird or creepy.

-one. Have or make two close female friends that are attractive and normal.

-two. Don’t look for shortcuts, tricks, secrets, or seduction tactics. – It’s usually the creepy guys that are the ones not willing to put in real effort to change and just want to seduce girls with tactics.

2. How Not to be Needy and Desperate:
Life’s fucked up paradox: when you start getting girls, more come and are abundant, but when you have none, it’s difficult to get any to start with.

-one. Postpone sexual gratification. Game girls into your social circle and friend zone them. Work on longer term goals.
-two. Stop watching internet porn, it gives guys instant gratification without any work and makes you expect non-realistic things.

3. How to be Powerful, Dominant, Strong, Alpha:
Am I Dominant? Was I dominant a year ago – watch the interview I did with James Marshall at the 2010 PUA Summit.
What was I like 3 years ago? Did I have any tattoos, was I muscular and in shape? Was I a fighter? Watch the free videos on my blog, my 2007 PUA Summit speech and compare that non-dominant version of Johnny Wolf to the one today.

The Perfect Man Point System breakdown: Imagine this is a video game and you get skill points for each category.

Power/Dominance:
Physical Attractiveness:
Primal Sexuality:
Confidence:
Charisma:
Presence:
Humor:
Intelligence:
Spontaneity:

Out of 0/100 points where are you in each. How do you level up?
Adding Muscle: 3 points to Power, Physical Attractiveness, Sexuality, Confidence
Improv Classes: 2 points to Presence, Humor, Spontaneity
Fighting in a Ring: 3 points to Power, Confidence, Presence, and Sexuality.
Studying Pickup: 1 point to Intelligence
Practicing Pickup: 2 points to Charisma, Humor, Spontaneity.
Reading the Sex God Method: 1 to Intelligence, 1 to Sexual
Training for the Tough Mudder: 2 to Physical Attractiveness, Power
Completing the Tough Mudder: 3 to Confidence, Presence, Spontaneity

Videos and breakdown.

By the way, the 2011 PUA Summit was held at the legendary Project: Hollywood from “The Game,” and guys from the Game such as Tyler Durden from Real Social Dynamics and Ross Jeffries all came to speak.

To kick start it off, they are having this year’s PUA Summit at the mansion. This is your chance to tour the house and check it out along with hundreds of other PUAs who have had the same dream as you ever since reading about Mystery and Style living it up in this mansion.

The address to Project: Hollywood is Project: Hollywood 1317 Londonderry Pl. Los Angeles, CA 90069

Rules: Do not just show up uninvited. Vince, Speer, and a few other PUAs will be living here, do not stalk them or show up unannounced. The PUA Summit this year was organized completely by Vince Kelvin and his team. Since I have been out of the country, I am only helping out in name and legacy.

I am actually quite surprised no one has leased out the old Project Hollywood until now. Maybe we all learned a lesson that if Mystery, Style, Tyler Durden, Papa and the rest of the RSD crew couldn’t make it work, how could anyone else? A few years ago Asian Playboy and I decided to lease our own little version of Project: Asian Hollywood as I thought of it, but we called it Forbidden City instead. It was half the size and half the rent, but still was a huge headache. Sure we had some good parties there and girls loved coming by, especially since it was so close to sunset blvd. But would I do it again? Probably not. Best of luck to Vince, Speer and the other PUAs who are moving in there this week.

Would you live in Project: Hollywood if you got the chance? Why or why not?

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If the embedded video doesn’t work go to: http://videosift.com/video/What-Do-Women-Look-At-When-They-Meet-A-Guy

The catch – well, if you aren’t in shape like this guy is, she probably won’t be checking anything of yours out. Even more reason to get on the PUA Diet and Fitness programs which I described a few weeks back on my blog. The guy purposely acted like a huge AFC, but just having the confidence to approach girls and having passive value through being in shape he ended up with two hot girls offering to walk him half a mile to where he needed to go.

Obviously you still need game to be able make that opportunity translate into something. Recently I met a guy who is in even better shape than the guy in the video. I’m talking about tall, ripped, 8-pack, and good looking. But he had no confidence, game off gay when approaching women, and had a bunch of mental blocks, which made his love life completely useless. If I had to choose just one of the other, I’d rather have game, as you can still get girls with being out of shape and having tight game, as I did for years.

But this video shows how much easier it is to get attraction when you are physically attractive. Women notice. Get game, work on your confidence but put in the time at the gym as well.

Some of the students already wrote up a couple short reviews on the ABC’s of Attraction forums on their experience, check it out:

JCali said:

I have been practicing this game for a year. I attended a bootcamp, Day Game and Super Conference with Love systems. I decided to take the bootcamp because after a year of sarging, I felt should have gotten more progress from all the effort I exuded. I knew I had to revamp myself so I chose ABC. I wanted get another aspect of the game.

ABC’s structure really resonates with me because there were pointers specific for Asian guys. The model is a streamlined sequence of events that is a simple way to get the woman you desire. Johnny was an excellent instructor. He was clear and concise, yet broke everything down from theory to application through exercises. Also, to include the approach coach Mike, he made sure I was always doing the right thing.

I truly enjoyed my experience. Both guys were great to learn from and hangout with. The money spent was well an investment. I already recommended it to others.

C.B. Said:

I just recently took the SF bootcamp with Johnny wolf and this is my review of the experience.

To start off, a little bit about myself: I’m 26 years old, Filipino, originally from the bay area. I currently live in the Midwest and serve in the military. There are several reasons why I chose to take the bootcamp, but primarily because I wanted to learn and develop my attraction skills as well as figure out what I’ve been doing wrong all these years whenever opportunities would present themselves. Im not bad with women, but im not good either. As an Asian, I figured that I would relate to ABCs methodology best as their instructors probably had similar social experiences as I did while growing up.

The ABCs structure was very easy to understand because it flows well, makes sense, and is easy to remember (A, followed by B, then C…).
The techniques they taught were simple and easy to learn but extremely effective. Johnny Wolf was the primary instructor who taught us. His lessons were very detailed but he reinforced the information in us by having the students do numerous practical exercises from role playing to storytelling. Mike Smooth was also present to support as an approach coach and his feedback helped me understand what I was doing wrong in-field. For me personally, seeing is believing and watching Johnny and Mike in-field helped me realize what type of body language and energy I had to bring to each set, which is something that years of reading ebooks could never reveal.

Overall, the experience was great. The environment motivated me to push myself more than I normally would and in the end the experience was definitely an eye opener. I also made a lot of good friends who are in the same boat as me. The bootcamp was well worth the money, and I highly recommend it to anyone sitting on the fence on deciding whether or not to jump in.

JCali kiss closing a girl in field during the San Francisco bootcamp.

I’m glad all of the students did well in SF! The girls didn’t know how to handle all that game being thrown at them from left and right. Good job guys,

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

When you were 15 you could have done 90% of the things wrong and have been a complete AFC (average frustrated chump) and still have sex with a girl since she’d forgive you for not knowing any better.

When you turn 30, girls…women expect you to do 90% of the things right since you are supposed to be experienced.

The fucked up thing about life when it comes to hooking up is that if you started early you have all the advantages. If you lost your virginity when you were 14, chances are that some older male figure in your life taught you some stuff about girls and how to get them. However, if your dad didn’t sit you down or lead by example and teach you how to be a man and hook up with girls and you didn’t have an older brother, then there is a good chance you were a late bloomer.

In the natural world, if you are 25 and not very sexually experienced with girls, it becomes harder each year after that. And the harder it is, the tougher it is to gain experience. It’s called a catch 22, where there is no way to win the game expect to catch up, which is why bootcamps were invented…maybe not necessarily by God, but the guys who changed their lives definitively thank him as well as their instructor when their lives finally are fulfilled with the ability to meet, pick up and seduce women.

Every single day someone tells me about a friend of theirs who needs to take a bootcamp but won’t do it. I always tell them the same thing. If the guy doesn’t come looking for a solution, there is nothing I can do to convince him that he needs one, which is why we don’t advertise bootcamps to the general public. You have to already know you need help and are willing to put in both the hard work but also sacrifice your comfort levels to become a new, reborn man.

If you are comfortable being single and alone, trust me, it will get harder the longer you put it off. You might be okay with it now, but if you are 22 now, it is a thousand times easier to take a bootcamp now than when you turn 30. And then, for a thirty year old it’s a hundred times easier than when you turn 38 and so on. If you are still single and don’t have choice and option with women, do something about it.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

From my personal pick up experience, when I’m in shape sets open a hundred times easier. I can still pick up when I’m overweight and out of shape but it takes 20x more effort. Why make it hard on ourselves?

The only reasons not to work out are all excuses:

If you tell yourself you don’t have time, or you are too tired, you are lying to yourself. If you work 80 hours a week, I’m sure you are physically tired, but working out actually gives you more energy and helps you sleep better. Plus there is a way you can workout for less than 4 hours a month and still get in great shape.

5 Easy things you can start doing today:

1. Do one simple body weight exercise every other day: First day Pushups, then Pull Ups, Dips, Chinups, you don’t need to buy any equipment or go to the gym. I do all mine at home and at the playground. Just do three sets of as many as you can.

*If you can’t do any pullups use a chair and hang in a half pull up postion for as long as you can. You’ll develop your muscles after a few weeks and you’ll be able to do normal pullups.

2. Sprint once a week. Unless you are training for a race, you don’t need to spend hours running. Just do some high intensity sprints once a week and your heart and body will be strong.

3. Lift Heavy once a week. I only lift weights once a week, because it’s all you need. I’ve been doing it incorrectly for 10 years, now I do the heaviest weights I can slowly, 5 seconds up, 5 seconds down for one set of 7 reps. That’s it. 4 exercises total, pull downs, shoulder press, chest press and leg presses. That’s all you need for growth.

4. Take on a sport or a hobby you like: Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu makes me want to train and get in better shape so I can enjoy the sports more. I look forward to the workouts because it’s a hobby and I love it. Find your passion and it won’t be work.

5. Sign up for a challenge such as the Tough Mudder. I signed up for it 8 months ago when I was in terrible shape and couldn’t even run half a mile. Having a fun goal forced me to keep up my workouts.

My Fitness Plan:

I work out every other day because I enjoy it and for me it’s the perfect period of work/rest. Working out every single day leads to over training so I force myself to rest. If you are busy or don’t enjoy working out, twice a week is plenty if you are following a good plan. The above photo is me a after a workout a few days ago.

The workout that I’ve been following is Tim Ferris’ “The 4-Hour Body” which is a book you can buy at www.Amazon.com/4hourbody and it’s easy and works well. I’m currently in the cutting phase of my workout where I’ve added enough muscle mass that I don’t mind losing some while trying to get into the low bodyfat percentage and a sixpack. I’ll update in a few months to show ya’ll where I’m at. If you remember what I looked like at last year’s PUA Summit or watched the DVD, it’s a pretty big difference already and it’s just going to get more insane.

But remember this, being in shape only makes sets easier. You still need to know the proper way to approach, transition and sexually escalate. If you are already in decent shape or on your way there but need help with the foundations of solid game, take a bootcamp.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

The only reason to keep the typical bad diet is because of laziness or because you want instant gratification through eating comfort foods. Both were my problems, it’s so much easier and cheaper to eat “normal” food. Also if I wasn’t having the best day, ice cream and pizza would always cheer me up. But now I’m looking at the bigger picture and vow to keep my diet at least 80% good for the rest of my life. Eating healthy all the time is hard, but eating well most of the time is actually pretty easy.

For me personally I’ve lost 20lbs this last year while adding a ton of muscle. Give me another month or two and I’ll post up some before and after photos that will surprise you. Even though I’ve been working out a lot, 80% of it was through cleaning up my diet.

If you want to lose fat, gain muscle, and have more energy + just overall feel better, happier and be more attractive, promise yourself to change your diet.

Cheap and Easy things you can do starting today:

1. Eat some protein within 30 minutes of waking up. Drink a protein shake, eat some nuts, or a couple of eggs, simple.

2. Take a Fish Oil capsule with every meal: Costco sells them cheap, 400 for $9. It’ll slow down the release of all the simple carbs in your meal, giving you more energy and less fat retention.

- I carry 10 caps around with me daily in a small baby aspirin bottle everywhere I go. I offer them to everyone I eat with and they all love it, girls love a man that can teach them something.

3. Stop drinking all liquid calories and cut out the sugar: This is especially Soda, Artificial Stuff but even 100% Juice. You don’t need it. The only thing I drink is unsweetened normal and iced tea and water.

4. Eat more healthy fats and protein and less starches, especially white bread, pasta, and rice, but even the brown stuff try to eat less of.

5. Workout twice a week and add a bit of muscle.

If you do just the stuff above and nothing else, you will see some really nice gains and it’s super cheap and easy to do. If you can’t commit yourself to a full on diet, just do those five things and report back to me in two months and I bet you’ll see some great changes in your energy level (from your blood sugar not spiking up and down all the time from the white carbs and sugar) and you’ll be more fit.

The two diets that actually work:

There is one called the Paelo Diet, which brings everything back to the basics. What would a caveman eat? Their is a free eBook on the site that is pretty good: www.marksdailyapple.com

The one I’ve been following is Tim Ferris’ “The 4-Hour Body” which is a book you can buy at www.Amazon.com/4hourbody I prefer this from the straight Paelo diet because it’s easier to stick to without going super hard core and it works great.

When it comes down to it, just like with dating and women, most of the shit that we learned through TV, our parents and society has not only been wrong, but often it’s been the exact opposite. The more you get into nutrition, the more important you’ll realize it is and the more fucked up it is. I specially remember when the FDA and Health Experts told us to stop using butter, lard, coconut oil and to switch to Margarine and Corn/Canola/Saffola and Vegetable oil. Now we found out that, oops that shit causes cancer and gives you heart disease and will make you even fatter. Turns out they were completely wrong. As a PUA, you’ve decided to challenge society and it’s beliefs. Changing your diet and doing your own research is a vital part of the PUA Lifestyle.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

But later that night we went to a small lounge/bar/club kind of place near Market st. downtown and it was amazing. I haven’t gone out in San Francisco in almost 10 months and was excited to get back into it. From what I remembered about SF girls was that they were smart, had good personalities but weren’t always the hottest and sometimes would give you random bitch shields for no apparent reason.

Lesson #1: Find a Venue that fits your budget: A lot of guys go to the “hottest” clubs or bars because they thing it’s the best place to be, or at least there will be the hottest girls there. But in fact, that’s not true. Hot clubs are like fads, they come and go all the time and are for a certain type of crowd. Because it’s popular, hard to get into, and sometimes exclusive, guys will act like douchebags, and girls will act like they are hot shit just because they are there. Drinks will be expensive, ranging from $8-$15 and over all most people will be there to be seen and not to drink or have fun.

The hot clubs are the type of places where rockstar game, high roller game, or even better bottle service and a table get you the upper hand. But if that’s not you, it’s hard to be a cool generous guy in that setting. For me personally, if drinks are on special for $2 I’m the most generous guy in the world, buying my friends drinks, and even girl’s drinks sometimes simply because it’s so cheap it’s not a big deal. So for me, I’m a happier guy and have a better time at places with $2 drink specials on a tuesday night, which I found last night through yelp. If you’re comfortable, able to be generous with yourself and your friends, you’ll be more attractive and have more fun.

Lesson #2 – Your State is EVERYTHING: My wingman last night was a tall, in shape, good looking white guy from London that happens to have a great personality. You would think that he would automatically get all the girls but there was one thing wrong, he wasn’t in state. He had just got off a greyhound bus and was coming down from smoking too much weed the past five days. He just wasn’t in the mood to have fun and couldn’t snap out of it. If you aren’t having fun, there is no way you can get the girl to have fun with you. your state comes first.

Lesson #3 – Don’t wear black to a nightclub: I’m not even taking about peacocking here. It’s simpler than that. Don’t wear black. My wing hadn’t done laundry so all he had was a plain black t-shirt, which looked fine at my house and during the day, but all the sudden when we got into the dark nightclub, he faded away and didn’t look like anyone worth talking to or even noticing. If you do decide to wear black, you need to have something colorful or shiny that pops, that’s where the peacocking comes in. Wear a necklace, hat, bracelet or at least have some colorful print or a logo on your shirt. I was wearing a black t-shirt last night as well, but with the help of a few small things, it made me go noticed and gave girls a simple way to approach me or continue the conversation.

Last night in San Francisco

Lesson #4 – Open and then Decide: My philosophy is to open first and then decide if I like the girl. A lot of guys will spend time checking out a girl and then deciding if they should approach them. That adds to the creep factor and nervousness of approaching. Just do what I do and open the set as soon as you see it. The worse thing that will happen is you’ll gain some more experience (xp to lvl up your game – heheh) opening and decide later that you want to move on. And the best thing is because you haven’t invested anything or even decided if you like the girl, if she decides to have a random bitch shield, then no harm done and you don’t take it personally and move on. My wing said something very valuable to me last night. “Bro, I’m far past the point where I give a shit if the girl decides to be a bitch.” Are you past that point yet? If you still feel like the girl is rejecting you personally when a set doesn’t open. You have to get past it, force yourself to open 100 more sets and you’ll get over it.

Lesson #5: Push the Sets, Don’t Settle for a Phone Close – A lot of guys are still going out to clubs to get phone numbers. It’s fine to do if you are just starting out and practicing your phone closes, but eventually it stops mattering. Ever wonder why 90% of phone numbers don’t become anything? If you’re spending a lot of time doing phone game, text, game, or just calling girls and not getting a day2, that’s because you didn’t push it far enough when you saw her in person. My new rule is I don’t get a girl’s phone number unless we at least kiss. Doing that has freed up my phone space, and my time. If a girl likes you, she’ll at least kiss you, period. If she doesn’t, you can risk playing her game and chasing her to take her on a date or a day2, which girls love by the way but it’s something that is frustrating and a waste of energy for guys. It’s up to you, do you want to let girls use you, (in this case, the girls that love having guys chase them and shower them with attention) or do you want to be a man and stand your ground. I for one am about honesty with a girl. If she likes me, great, show me and I’ll respond. If you want me to chase you, don’t waste my time, you better find another guy with more on is hands.

Sarging in SF Final Thoughts:

Going out again in San Francisco was awesome. There are hot girls with fun personalities, and for me at least, it was extremely easy to open sets last night and most of them stuck. I’m getting really excited to teach next weekend’s bootcamp here in SF and know it’s going to be a fucking blast.

By the way, the lesson I learned over lunch. I went out with a friend of a friend for lunch, he pulls up in a brand new BMW, and seems like he has his life together, at least financially. He works in IT, makes tons of money and is a really cool guy. However, he started to talk about wanting to take a bootcamp with me because he feels that it’s the only chance he has to hook up with a girl here in America. His story actually reminded me a lot of William’s when he was a bootcamp student. Both of these guys were financially secure, educated, and great guys, both would made great husbands for a lucky girl. But both of them would go to China to try to find a girlfriend. I realized that there are a lot of guys in the same boat.

He also said that reason he wants to do the bootcamp with me and not some other instructor from a bigger school such as Mystery Method or Real Social Dynamics is because I’m Asian and he can identify with me. I understand where he comes from and hope he takes the jump and signs up because I know that if he doesn’t he may end up settling for a girl that he isn’t truly happy with.

Upcoming Bootcamps:

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Personally, I don’t fucking want to be the gay best friend, EVER. So I act like a bit of an asshole. Just enough to let girls know that I’m not the type of guy they can use. However, being a dick gets in the way of genuine friendships and relationships.

Getting Used…Kinda.

A few days ago I met two beautiful girls from Holland at my Muay Thai class and arranged to hang out with them later that night. We went out, the two girls, myself, and the boyfriend of one of the girls and had a good time. However, the guy had to go home early because he had a kid and needed to put him to bed. Before he left, he asked me to watch out for the girls and I agreed.

As the night got later and the more drunk and aggressive random dudes got, the girls came up to me more and more for protection. It was kind of fun at first, but after a while it just got annoying. Seeing every single possible pick up attempt fail, made me kind of sad. We went to get drinks and since they paid for the first round, I tried to pick up the tab for the second…but the brunette with the boyfriend wouldn’t have it and insisted on paying for me all night.

So there I was with two of the hottest girls in the club, getting free drinks and having a genuinely good time dancing with them, AMOGing dudes that tried to come in, and getting attention from other girls. But then out of no where, the lights came on and the club was closing. Did I just waste my whole fucking night helping these two girls safe from other dudes? I don’t know if it was because I was a bit drunk from all the drinks, or if I felt entitled to have hooked up with the single girl of the group, but I was genuinely pissed and angry. The single girl took off, and the one with the boyfriend gave me a hug and told me that she had tried to convince her friend that she should have at least made out with me for being so nice all night.

“Being nice all night” – doing everything right, and still not hooking up. That’s what pissed me off. I felt used. Like the gay best friend. I should have ditched them and used their social proof to get another girl.

But then I slept on it and woke up feeling completely different, seeing the other side to the story. What really happened? I went out with two beautiful girls, had a great time dancing and they bought me drinks all night. This would normally be a good night out, for any guy. But the keyword that some of you may missed up there was “entitled” and I think this is what messes a lot of PUAs up. We think that we should hook up every time we go out to a club or hang out with a girl and get pissed off when it doesn’t happen. I’m used to at least making out with a few girls every time I go out and pulling one night stands on the regular but is that normal? Is that even healthy?

Well here’s the secret behind it all. The trick to being successful and happy with women is to first, learn pick up so you can do it. Then shutting it off and stop feeling like you have to pick up every time you go out. But whatever you do don’t be that AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) that gets used by women. I’m glad as hell that the worse night out for me involves two beautiful Dutch girls and free drinks all night, and not standing around afraid to approach girls.

If that is still you, suck it up and take a bootcamp, it’s far cheaper in the long run than getting used by girls. And this is one of the last times a full three day and three night bootcamp will be offered for less than $1,000 for signing up early.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

The Perfect Pickup Method is the Johnny Wolf method of making that happen consistently over and over again, using the ABC’s of Attraction Structure. In fact, the whole point of it is to pick up using the least amount of time and the least amount of effort possible. Things like lying or making up a false story may seem like the easy way gain attraction or get over LMR but it actually causes a lot more drama and work back peddling, making it harder in the long run than just telling the truth in the first place.

Example of a Perfect Pickup:

I go somewhere with a friend to do something I was going to do anyways. I spot a beautiful girl and approach her with no hesitation. I go direct and tell her that she is really pretty, which she is. My body language, eye contact and slow seductive smile is on point and perfect, I use BLP (Body Language Positioning) to gain small compliance and get her to face me and away from any potential obstacles. The BLP also shows the rest of the people at the venue that she is into me, building up my pre-selection by women, and it closes off our conversation for others to join in, or for me to get AMOGed (cock blocked, basically.)

*The above is all very subtle and all within the first minute of the conversation.

She asks me the normal questions, “Where are you from” and “What do you do for work.” – I give her the “perfect responses.” (more on that later) – which build more attraction and makes her decide she wants to hook up with me.

I acknowledge this and know that I can move onto building more comfort, connection and compliance – most “puas” would spend the next 30 minutes entertaining the girl, trying to demonstrate high value, or over game her.

Once there is enough comfort and connection, I check compliance by asking her to go somewhere with me and she does, I know then to show direct interest through Kino and Eye Gazing.

I move onto Extracting and Sexually Escalating, I pass her LMR (last minute reservations) tests and we have sex. The next day she takes me out and buys me an expensive dinner. She is happy, I am happy, I have the power to choose to keep it casual, to take it into a relationship, or to end it there.

The above was an example of how a “perfect pickup” works and it happened to me three days ago. I’ve been using this method for the past few months with fantastic success. I’ve used it successfully and hooked up with a few American girls, and also it seems to work really well for women from other countries, better than any other method I’ve ever tried since European girls hate it when guys talk themselves up or brag.

However, it’s not a method for beginners or people with approach anxiety. It is more of method to strive to attain and to work towards. It is also the method that I teach in my bootcamps since I truly believe that 90% of the stuff guys do in sets to pick up girls is a complete waste of time. PUA’s talk too much and over game.

The “perfect response” to the two most common questions a girl will ask anyways is all you need to demonstrate high value, and gain enough attraction that the girl wants to hook up with you. Then all you need is to know How and When to transition into the next phase.

Sign up for a bootcamp with me if you want to learn the ABC’s of Attraction Structure, master your non-verbal communication, develop your perfect responses, practice it in a classroom until you get it, then go out and use it on real women while your coach pushes and helps you. I truly and sincerely believe that the bootcamps I teach change people’s lives, which is why I still get emails all the time from alumni students who are now in great relationships, hooking up with girls, and some even getting married. If you want to learn the Perfect Pickup, sign up today for an early bird discount and commit yourself to improving your game and becoming great with women.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Luckily, I was smart enough to do something about it rather than just accept life for what it is. My goal and my plan for when I turned 30 was to be in the best shape of my life. I wanted to have the energy of my 18 year old self along with the speed, stamina and sex drive.

I’m the one in the hat and it was taken approximately 5 years ago.

So did I achieve my plan?

Well somethings definetely not. When I was 18 I could pull an all nighter, drinking all weekend and then wake up on Monday morning ready for a full day of class without a nap. So recovery and energy is something I would have loved to gain. But the good news is the 30 year old Johnny can definetely kick the living shit out of the 18 year old Johnny in sports, running, fitness, and definetely in a fight.

Another thing that has changed a lot is understanding who I am and not trying to be like other people, not even the rich and famous. I’ve seen so many fashion trends come and go and now I just think they are getting stupider and stupider. You will never catch me in skinny jeans to try to fit in. I’ve realized what clothes I look good in and what makes me comfortable. I also know what I like, what I will accept and what I won’t. I can see why women often date older men, and why some men think hot young 18 yr old girls are just not worth the hassle. My last girlfriend was 19 and this is when I was 29. I definetely enjoyed the experience but I really don’t think I want that again, unless it’s just a fun weekend in Vegas.

So what’s the point of this entry exactly?

Well, if you’re younger, you won’t listen to it anyways, and if you’re my age or older, you already know. The best advice I can give is to enjoy whatever age you are today and not to think too much about the past or the future. Stay fit and healthy, and don’t worry too much about this whole pua thing. If you meet a girl you like, have the balls to approach her and don’t fall into the trap of doing what society has taught you to do. If you are fit, have a fun lifestyle, and are generous, spontaneous and confident, everything will fall into place.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

To become an attractive man, you can’t just learn a pick up line or tactic. You genuinely have to become that guy. Confidence cannot be faked, it needs to be earned.

This year is all about putting in the hard work and delaying the sanctification for me. I’m currently training for the Tough Mudder Race – Why you may ask? Well, because I suck at it. I have never been able to run more than a few miles, and have never really had to train hard for anything. Muay Thai was the start of it, but this to me is even harder than a fight.

I’m turning 30 this year and looking back, the one goal I’ve always had was to get in really good shape, and it’s the one that I keep putting off. It’s so easy for 3 months or even years to pass by without getting any closer to a goal. And the goal of being a great pick up artist is bull shit and doesn’t lead to happiness. I know, I’ve been there. So my advice to you all, pick a real goal, something worth achieving that has nothing to do with women. Work hard towards it, become a great man at whatever you do and the women will come with it.

Women want men that are passionate about what they do. They want men who are leaders of the pack and great at their hobbies and careers. Just make sure the career or hobby you pick is something that has potential to be attractive to women. Just don’t strive to be the best World of Warcraft player in the world. Some potential hobbies and careers that take a lot of hard work to become great at but come with the rewards include:

Great Athlete or Fighter. Actor, Singer, Musician. Author, Business Man, Entrepreneur, Military, etc.

Just remember, there are no shortcuts to greatness.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

So I told myself that if someone ever invented a pocket sized digital camera that took photos as good as a big SLR I would buy it. And they did, introducing the Canon S95

I went into the shop today to try it out against the cheaper Canon SD1300 and the SD 1300IS and their new 100HS Digital Elphs. I’ve always had and loved Canon cameras as they are easy to use, take fantastic photos and are good value for their money. The Elphs are about $200 and the new S95 is $399. But it is twice as good? Hell yeah. It’s 10x as good. You can take photos in low light without a flash, take photos in RAW format and record video in HD. And you know those awesome photos that girls love? Where the person is in focus but the background is blurred? Well it can do that too!

Anyways, it’s time to upgrade to a cooler digital camera. Start carrying it around and take photos of everything. It’s small enough to keep in your pocket, and it’s excellent for updating your facebook and to show chicks what cool things you’ve been up to. I was going to buy it on Newegg but it’s out of stock there. So next best best, Amazon!

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf