1. Stick your approach, be attractive before you walk up. Do this by working on your passive value, including body language, fashion, smile, eye contact, and voice tonality.

2. Pump up her BT (buying tempature) have fun and get her out of a logical state. Humor is the easiest way to do this, teasing is good, and so are non-verbal BT spikes.

3. Build just enough comfort and connection. My favorite way to do this is through comfort kino. While talking, I systematically introduce non-sexual kino, so she gets comfortable with me touching her.

4. Go for the kiss. At this point, I usually can just verbally go into D (direct interest and intention) lock eyes and kiss, but if I want to do something more valuable, I’ll do one of my kiss close gambits such as the Wolf Trap.

How to do the Wolf Trap:

This is much better shown in person, but the basics of it are, you bring up the topic of what sexual tension is.

Example: “Hey do you feel that…is that sexual tension building between us? *Smile* Actually, what exactly is sexual tension…like how would you define it?”

Her: she’ll either say I dunno, or she’ll have some type of answer

You: Well whatever it is, there seems to be only two ways to break it once it starts building.

Her: What is that? (or whatever she says, just move on with it)

You: The first is obviously to act on it, and the second, is to laugh. What always happens on one person will smile and laugh when it starts building up too intensely, and it breaks. Here, let’s try it, you’ll see.

Her: She’ll respond here and there, but just acknowledge her and move on.

You: Okay the only rule is we’re not allowed to kiss each other k? So don’t let your lips touch mine. Here give me your hands. *Start holding hands while maintaining eye contact, and slowly move closer like you’re almost going to kiss.*

DO NOT KISS HER. (if you do, you’ll lose rapport and trust)

Let the sexual tension build, and go in about 85% slowly…as soon as one of you two laughs (usually her) break away, let go of her hands, and laugh with her. Say: Haha! I told you so! Look you broke it!

Then say: “Okay let’s do it again, the cool thing is the 2nd time you do it, you can go in closer before someone laughs”

This time, you didn’t promise her or make her promise not to kiss…so it’s fair game. But I still like to make her be the one to kiss me first. This time i’ll go in 90% and not laugh….she either has to break it, or she’ll act on it.

I’ve never had to go through more than 3 rounds of this to kiss close. And so far i’ve had a 100% success rate on this working. I’ve only taught it to a handful of bootcamp students, and they have all gotten kiss closes with it as well! Enjoy the Wolf Trap, and the 15 minute kiss close stack.

JT & Johnny,

It’s been less than 3 months since I bought my 100 pack of crown condoms, and I’m already out

Thanks JT and Johnny Wolf for giving me the knowledge I needed to have pussy all the time!

-William

Basically I got drunk and fell asleep early, so more and more guests showed up and everyone was looking for me. Then the cops came and my friend woke me up to handle them. I go upstairs in a robe, take care of the cops, and on the way back downstairs to my bedroom, this random girl that I never met before runs up to me and wishes me happy birthday, she was kinda hot, so I smiled at her, took her hand and led her down to my room with me.

I closed the door behind me and we started making out and sexually esclating really quick, then the LMR kicks in…she says to me:

“omg Johnny, we just met like….37 seconds ago.”

At this point I really didn’t care if I f-closed her or not, as I was really tired and wanted to go back to bed, so I just gave her a look, and pointed to the door….(freezeout) she says okay okay, and we go back to making out and taking off each other’s clothes, 8 seconds later, I’m inside of her. =)

My entire life I always felt like something was missing:

No one else understood, none of my friends cared.

When I read The Game, I realized that I wasn’t the only one!

I knew the techniques and theories worked, and tried to clone myself taking everything as gospel.

I got rid of everything negative in my life, and lost not only some friends, but a part of myself along the way.

But I think it was needed. I needed a real reality check and a clean foundation.

My pick up skill increased dramatically, but my results did not.

I would be able to open sets easily, get girls ga-ga over me, get numbers, and never have results.

Even when I started getting a lot of kiss closes I still didn’t’ get the results I wanted.

I couldn’t figure it out on my own.

I looked to wingmen to help, local lair guys.

They helped a lot by showing me sticking points I didn’t know I had.

But it was like the blind leading the blind.

I thought more information was what I needed.

I scoured the Internet looking for the magic pill.

I had over 200 gigs worth of pick up material.

I read 60 e-books, watched 100 hours worth of DVDs.

I listened to audio books instead of music.

I was extremely active on forums

But I was searching and searching with no real results.

Then I finally broke down and took a bootcamp with JT and the ABCs of Attraction.

I finally learned one full structure, and realized that I had no game plan before.

It was like I learned bits and pieces of 1,000 recipes, but couldn’t cook a single meal.

He also gave me calibration, and really dug out my sticking points.

I was no longer able to give excuses to myself or others.

The biggest revelation was going sexual.

I said I had gone direct before. I was convinced that I have. I told him I did it and it didn’t really work that well for me. I said I tried it many times.

Turns out, I never did. I knew what it was, maybe I did it in my mind a hundred times. Maybe I half-assed it out in field. But it was a shock to me when I did it on the 2nd night of the bootcamp and realized, I can’t believe I had been lying to myself this whole time.

I now had accountability.

What is Game Mastery?

Knowledge + Real world application – Ego + True understanding + True Application + Proper Structure + Calibration through field testing + Earned Successes + Pushing your limits + Naturalization x Life Style = Game Mastery

The Results?

Took a while, but the results finally came.

Hot blonde girl friends.

Two were models, one was a stylist.

There are more.

But what finally made me happy was knowing I had all of this, so I could explore other things.

I could enjoy myself and have hobbies because this part of my life was taken care of.

Before I had this part of my life handled, I couldn’t enjoy things without a girl. For instance, I never cared to look at the grand canyon, because in my mind it would only be beautiful if I was looking down at it while holding hands with a girl I loved.

“Sex is like air, it’s only a big deal if you’re not getting any”

End of notes: There’s more, but I didn’t type it all out sorry!

Anyways, here are the upcoming Southern California Events this week:

Wednesday’s How to Properly Game and Prevent Flakes Workshop
When: Wednesday 11/12/08
Time: 7:30pm-9:30pm
Where: Los Angeles
Hosted by: Johnny Wolf (http://www.thesocialsecrets.com)
Cost: $50 early, $60 later
RSVP: http://preventflakes.eventbrite.com/

Final Los Angeles Bootcamp
Friday-Sunday 11/14-11/16
http://laabcnov08.eventbrite.com/

Warm Regards and Best Wishes to you all,

Johnny Wolf

When: Sundays, 4:00-4:30pm EST - New York (1:00-1:30pm PST Los Angeles) 11/09
Conference Call Number: 978-964-0049
Passcode: 525-484#

It’s free to call in, feel free to ask me any questions you may have too. And if you miss the live call, dont’ worry, it’ll be on the website for a few days after to download and listen to. Just go to www.betterasianman.com to check it out.

There have been studies done that show knowledge by itself does not give you results, especially true here in the pick up community, keyboard jockeys and guys that download all night, and dont’ go out in field seldom if ever have any real world results.

Here is a real world proven formula to get actual results:

Knowledge + Inspiration + Field Experience + Honest Feedback - Ego + Calibration + More Knowledge + Structure + More Field Experience + Breaking out of your comfort zone + Pushing boundraries and new limits + Results = Power

Some guys have it more severe than others, but it almost feels like everyone i’ve met in the community has some sort of mental imbalance. Some guys have delusional confidence, and think they are master pick up artists when they’ve realistically never opened a set in their lives. Or worse, guys that think they are pick up gods when they really just creep girls, and other guys out.

But, those arn’t the guys i’m talking about today. I want to address the guys that have some sort of depression…because I myself, suffer sometimes as well. Personally, I can never just be content, I always need to be doing something, or working towards something to be happy. It has it’s usefulnesses as well, it gives me hard core motivation to get things done, and forces me to want to learn and master new tasks. But sometimes, I wish I could just be happy doing nothing. But is that what “normal” is? Being content not achiving greatness? Or is wanting to strive to be better and have more actually the real norm?

I do think it’s unhealthy to base our happiness and self worth on external factors, like when the last time we got laid, or how good we are at pick up. But I do think it’s perfectly healthy if not a gift, to not be easily satisfied, so that we have the drive for greatness.

Most, if not every pick up instructor and guru I’ve met….and I’ve met and hung out with most guys in the community that are well known, and i’ve noticed that none of them are normal. But I think that is what makes them great. Some examples:

Adam Lyons - Can be ultra extremely warm if he likes you, and then ultra extremely cold if you do something to piss him off. Which is not like normal people who are generally luke warm, and half cold. Pros: Can make you feel like your heart is melting even when you first met him, Cons: Can break your heart even faster

Asian Playboy “JT” - Gets into full on hardcore modes when he’s on, he’s on, and nothing gets in his way. Pros: Unstoppable confidence and drive Cons: Can be too hardcore almost dangerous

Sinn - Studies and stalks pick up material more than anyone in the community and has an instainable desire to know the newest and best theories and methods that come out. In fact, I bet you he is reading this post right now. Pros: Extremely knowledgable, always on the cutting edge of technology Cons: Can become too obsessed and entrenched

Mystery - Thinks the entire world is a game that he needs can control, and he needs to always be the center of attention. Pros: Amazing at game, great at self-analyzing and control Cons: Hard to have a normal conversation with, and turn off the game

And there are others too, Vince Kelvin, Juggler, Matador, Ross Jeffries, none of these guys are “normal” but I really don’t think it’s a bad thing. Us guys in the pick up community, are gifted in a sense. A lot of us needed to find the community to realize that it’s okay not to be like every other person in the world that is perfectly content being herd like sheep, as we are wolves amongst them.

That’s what one of my closest friends said after I told him my plans to move to Koh Tao. He asked me a serious of questions, mainly “why? are you sure? what are you doing to do about money? what about this, what about that?”

Then he started saying, “you know your life will be ruined if you leave it, you can’t just come back and expect everything to be okay, you’ll be broke and have nothing.”

Then after 30 minutes of explaining my plans, and my reasons on why I want to go….he finally understand and gave in.

“Johnny, I’m a bit jealous of you, for your bravery, I think it’s awesome that you’re going.”
Funny…just like in pick up, people will always talk shit and try to keep you down. Remember when you found the game, and how awesome it was? It was sooo inspiring and amazing that you wanted to share it with everyone! And then quickly you realized that others didn’t see it in the same light as you, and would put it down, and make you feel stupid.

“You don’t need to learn game, you don’t need some stupid book, just be yourself, just be confident!” This was exactly the same tone that my friend used when he said to me “you don’t need to move to another country to be happy, you can do everything you want to do here.”

My answer was…well, if that was really the case, I would have done it by now. I guess I could drive to the beach every morning to go jogging. But I don’t…I could live a stress free and relaxed non-materalistic life here in Los Angeles, but I really doubt I would. But if I lived two steps from a white sand beach, had no worries in the world, and no one to impress, maybe I would wake up and go for a care free jog on the beach. In fact, I did. When I was in Phuket, it was one of the best experiences of my life. Waking up early, and running with wild dogs along the most beautiful scenery in the world.

It’s funny how even your best friends will try to find fault and make you feel bad when you find something that could possibly make you happy. I think it’s because they secretly want to hold you back because they’re not happy themselves. Forget everyone else. If you respect them, take their advice into consideration, it might be helpful. But ultimately it’s up to you to pursue happiness. We have a moral obligation to be happy.

I got everything I wanted from being a pick up artist, and now it’s time for me to move on.

In the last few years, I went from being an average frustrated chump to first, being able to number close successfully in bars. I was so excited that I started seeing how many I could get in a single night…getting a ridiculous fifteen once.

Then it was my first cold approach kiss close. I can still remember the set vividly, it was the first time in my life that was able to point to a target, approach confidently, game her and her friend, and get her to kiss me on the lips. I was finally able to kiss close! So I did it over and over and over. That was fun, especially that one time I got six in one night.

Day 2’s came next. Up until this point, numbers would flake. So I learned to rework my game, and started having more dates and day 2s. This is when the lays started.

Now over 70 lays later, my sex drive is finally fulfilled.

So I started looking into more exciting things to do with pick up. I wanted to fuck a porn star, so I spent a few months figuring out how, and ended up fucking three. I wanted to do the impossible, so I pulled a girl and her mom back to my hotel and f-closed the daughter right next to her mom. Every guys fantasy is to have a threesome, so I cold approached two different girls and f-closed both of them on the same night for the community’s first ever double cold approach, threesome, all while figuring out how to get girls to let me video tape us in bed.

So what else did I want being a pick up artist? Well, just like every other person that read the game. I wanted to meet Mystery, and Neil Strauss, Tyler Durden and Ross Jeffries, and everyone else that was in the book. So I did. I met them all. And then I wanted to give everyone the opportunity to meet them, even if they couldn’t afford a bootcamp. Which is why I started the SoCalLair, I wanted a lair that was powerful enough to get all the big name gurus to come visit it. I got them all to come, Juggler, Asian Playboy, Sinn, Savoy, Ross Jeffries, Vince Kelvin, Neil Strauss, Adam Lyons, David Wygant everyone. Which inspired me to start the PUA Summit, I wanted the world, the entire pick up community to be able to meet the top guys, all in one place.

But if I never gotten over my ego, and put down the money to take a bootcamp in the first place, I never would have gotten this far.. I was stuck at a point where I was able to approach and randomly kiss close and get numbers that would usually flake, but I never really had solid success. Which is why I took a program with Asian Playboy and the ABCs of Attraction. And since then, I had something called structure and calibration. He broke me down, forced me to realize my weaknesses, and built me back up. For the next 6 months I trained to become an instructor. Ten bootcamps later, and over 1,000 hours in field, I became certified.

For the next year and a half I taught over twenty bootcamps, and close to a hundred students. I taught students in Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, Texas, Toronto, Miami, Australia, London, Scotland, and I felt like I changed someone’s life every weekend. I was also fortune enough to help approach coach for great guys such as David Wygant, and Adam Lyons, as well as appear on the Love Systems / Mystery Method Interview series.

But I still remember that when I first read “The Game,” it changed my life. I realized there were other people in this world that were going through the same torments as me. Extreme pain and anguish came from being lonely, desperate, and without love or sex. I couldn’t be happy because my life was missing such a vital part.

But the skills and experience I learned being a PUA and through the community, helped me find happiness. I’m reluctant to say that the pua community “fixed me” because it doesn’t really do that. But it does a damn good job patching you up, giving you hope, a taste of glory and success, and inspires you to do greater things.

Now, I’m off to do greater things, different things. I’m moving to a tiny island off the coast of Thailand called Koh Tao, aka Turtle Island. A small paradise populated mainly by scuba divers from Australia, Europe, and America, Koh Tao is going to be my new home while I pursue the adventures of the underwater world training as a divemaster. It’s truly paradise, warm weather year round, white sand beaches, crystal clear water, hot Australian chicks, amazing food, animals of all sorts, and the best scuba diving in the world.

But, because the Pick Up Artist Community has done so much for me. There is no way I’m going to abandon it. I promised JT that I’ll still teach bootcamps, but on an extremely limited basis, once every three months. I’ll still help put together and host the PUA Summit every year, and I’ll still update my blog and keep tabs on the community.

I feel like I’m one of the few guys in the community that truly understands where a lot of you are coming from…because I was there. Being an overweight, Asian guy with hair loss, never helped me get girls. I used to look at all the tall good looking white guys and think that we could never have what they have. But I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter, and that we can over come all obstacles. I also learned that they have struggles too and need game as well. A few years ago having a hot blonde girlfriend was like seeing a unicorn, and after having ridden a few now, I realized that they really aren’t that magical in the first place.

But I encourage all of you to find your unicorns. It’s possible. Just don’t get stuck looking forever. Figure out a way to get good at this game, as fast as you can, so you can finally move on. But when you do, don’t abandon the community entirely, always remember where you came from and all that it has done for you. Leave it better than you found it, just like we strive to do with women.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

P.S. My last USA bootcamp will be held in Los Angeles on November 14th-16th. http://laabcnov08.eventbrite.com/

After that I’ll be back in three months to teach in San Francisco and New York.
SF 02/27-03/01- http://jwolfsffeb.eventbrite.com/
NY 03/06-03/08- http://jwolfnymarch.eventbrite.com/

Well, it doesn’t exist.

Or does it?

I think I may have found the only magic pill that actually works. It only takes seconds to start working, and can be had for less money than you think.

Before I tell you what it is or how to get it, I want to share with you the instant and long term benefits of it. And my own personal experience with it. Actually never mind, I’ll just tell you now, or you’ll just scroll down until you find it anyways.

Ready? The magic pill is putting yourself and getting out of a near death situation.

Yes, you heard me right. When your life flashes before your eyes, you are forced to really look at things in the proper perspective. Ego is finally put aside and you either accept your fate, knowing that you have lived your life to the fullest. Or you start praying for a second chance, because you know you’ve been lying to yourself and putting things off. You promise yourself that you’ll do everything you’ve set out to do. Whether it be taking that salsa class, starting your own company, following your dream, or to stop being so passive with women.

When you think you’re going to die, you have no one else to give excuses to, and you have no reason to hesitate or to put things off. You don’t have time to. This is your final, and last moment to live.

I had my moment when I was standing on a ledge, looking up at the most beautiful blue sky I have ever seen…or at least noticed until now. It’s funny how you don’t notice how comfortable breathing is until you stop. On all sides of me is jungle, deep dense jungle filled with venomous snakes, but those aren’t my biggest concern. Below me is a lake, about 50 meters below….enough to snap my neck if I hit the water from this height. But I was calm…I took in a deep breath and thought to myself, this life may as well be over, I’ve already lived….actually lived and experienced more in these 27 years than most people do their entire lives. I was ready to die, so I jumped. Feet first off the ledge…I felt like time had froze for a second, and then all the sudden it catches up to me and I’m free falling at double the speed. I really felt like I was going to die.

Imagine you were in this exact scenario, would you be happy with what you’ve accomplished in your life, or would you pray and ask for a second chance and promise that this time you’ll do every thing you can to better yourself and truly live happily without regrets. Have you really done everything you could to become successful with women, career, and life, or have you been giving yourself and everyone around you excuses and putting it off.

Put yourself in a near death situation and you’ll quickly answer those questions. And it doesn’t have to be dangerous, you just need to experience almost dying, don’t actually try to kill yourself by doing something stupid. Go sky diving, or bungy jumping like I did. The more scared you are of doing so, the more you’ll break through your comfort zones and the more it will help. Go out and actually do it, don’t just say you get the point, or think you get it because if you haven’t actually made the jump, you have no idea.

Life is short, it really is. Accomplish everything your heart desires. If you were facing death, the last thing you’d want is a life of regret.

Warm Regards,

-Johnny Wolf
www.theSocialSecrets.com – Personal blog
www.abcofattraction.com – bootcamps